Non-sexual touch in a relationship can look like many things from holding one another to a kiss. It is touch of connection and affection without the intention leading to sex.

When relishing in touch such as long three-minute hugs or thirty-second kisses, oxytocin and endorphins are released. They help to bond us to one another and to lessen our stress and anxiety. The only problem is, non-sexual touch for some of us may not feel so loving.

In this episode, Jon shares he is all about this long indulgence of touch, while I am more cautious. I love being near him and cuddling, and I also have some touch which creates a feeling of being trapped for me. We talk about how it is important to distinguish what non-sexual touch looks like for your relationship, and what kind feels loving.

I resented the stereotype that all men had the intention that when they touched you it was to get sex or be sexual.

The truth is that everyone longs for non-sexual touch, and it is a need we have. Jon shares, "I resented the stereotype that all men had the intention that when they touched you it was to get sex or be sexual. I never really connected with that sentiment. I didn't like that I got lumped in with all the rest of the guys."

The truth is men and women both long for non-sexual touch. There is so much joy in sharing a hug, a hand-hold, or a cuddle. Just find what works for the two of you!

(Theme music: Ethan Anderson, Photo credit: Katarina Šikuljak)

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