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I'm gonna go Saturday in
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the morning to the synagogue here.
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She wasn't having it. You
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step out of this house, you're
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out for good. So
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I told her, okay, I'm telling you right
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now, you take a foot out of
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this door, I'm gonna spank you,
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and you're gonna remember what my name
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is. So I questioned her, why are
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you so upset? You didn't tell me to be
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Christian, Catholic, anything. Why does it bother you? So
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she said, you're gonna sit down, and
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that's it. So I said, okay, fine. I
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sat down, everybody, weekends,
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watch TV, football, soccer, whatever, chips,
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sit down in the living room.
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I took a pillow, and
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I covered my face. She
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said, what are you doing? Told her, Shabbos, we don't
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watch TV. She called
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my phone, and I picked up, Shabbos,
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we don't answer the phone. We
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don't touch electricity. Sat
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down like a mensch for the first time in my
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life with Borchalah, whatever
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food, I sat down to eat
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in front of everybody. And I did this for a
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couple Shabbos. She
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didn't let me go, and I
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would cover my face, and I would sleep through
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the whole Shabbos. And
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during those weeks,
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I would dive into a Shabbos. She's
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not gonna back down that quickly, help
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me that it should work. Hey,
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everybody, what's going on? Acha here from Meaningful
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People, and we are re-airing an episode that
1:31
was so, so popular that maybe some of
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our new listeners, or old listeners, did not
1:36
get to yet. That is with Mayor Weiss,
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a journey that you won't believe, unless you hear
1:41
it straight from his mouth, and that's what we're
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giving you the opportunity to do. This
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episode, this story, is
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family-friendly, perfect for you
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on the way wherever you're going home, and maybe if
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you're just staying home, watch,
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enjoy, listen, have a
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beautiful Yontif. You
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are listening to the Meaningful
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People podcast. The podcast featuring
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our nation's most impactful, influential,
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and meaningful people. Thank
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you so much, Mayor, for coming in. And
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I want to thank Elie Schwab, Elie
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Schwab, for introducing us, and
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Yoni Jonathan Kirshner as well. We
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met at Bar Mitzvah, and
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it was really great to meet you. And
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we really appreciate that you came into the office. I
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understand from them... Actually work there. What's
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that? I worked there. Of
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course. Of course. I
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don't think so. We met on... Oh,
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they told me about you at the
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Bar Mitzvah. Eronious. Very deep. Yeah.
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My bad. Yeah, I'm like, he's talking about a Bar
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Mitzvah. I'm like, what are you talking about? No, so
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Elie Schwab made a Bar Mitzvah not long ago, as
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did Jonathan Kirshner. Yeah, correct. Jonathan also
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made it. Exactly. It was like
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making Bar Mitzvah. Oh, we're both wearing glasses? Yeah, we're
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not wearing glasses. We're wearing glasses. Yeah. That's
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a good plan, but okay. Very deep. Yeah, but
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this is on the outside. This is one of those guests that
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you were somewhere, and, yo, this guy would be great. Yeah. And
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then you bumped into Mayer in the place where he works.
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People ask me that a lot, by the way. How
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do you get your guests? Where do they come from?
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Because someone's like, oh, I have a great idea. And I'm like, they
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come from these conversations. Totally. The
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ones that we're having. To be honest, I didn't even think
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as deep to come. I was like,
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podcasts, meaningful people podcasts. I heard about it.
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I heard of it. Like
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we had whatever. Like I
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had a couple of people who mentioned it prior
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and I saw some videos on YouTube and I heard,
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I was like, you know what? Maybe
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it sounds like a good idea. Outside your comfort
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zone? Yes. Yeah.
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I'm usually usually very quiet. I'm
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usually hiding behind
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everybody. I'm quiet. So
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whatever. Even though we don't have
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an audience, I still feel like, you know, a little bit nervous. So
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I guess, you know, let's
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delve into the story of Mayor Weiss. You
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know, I know you said that you like
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to sit in the back, stay hidden, and
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I'm sure many people have stood next to
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you and they don't know your journey, your
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story. So if you can, I
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guess take us from the beginning. What was your upbringing
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like? Where did you grow up? Right. So
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I was born in Manhattan. I spent about, I think, two
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years there. I don't
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have big memories on Manhattan,
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but I know that growing
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up, I moved to the
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Bronx. I'm a
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child of two
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Mexican immigrants and
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I'm the middle child of
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two older sisters, two younger brothers. So
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I grew up in the Bronx. We weren't
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the wealthiest, but my
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uncle actually owned the property where we owned,
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where we lived and he rented it out
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to his family. And
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growing up there was, it
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was difficult. And at the same time,
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it was, I don't
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know, I always
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look at things like the day,
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looking backwards, it was like one of the
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biggest parts of my life growing up because
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I learned a lot then.
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I lived there, I think, probably until I
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was like eight and
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I went to public school there and I had very good
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teachers at school who
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really affected my
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life because they,
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as I'm going to mention later, they
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were very big pillars
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to the buildup of
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my personality. When
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I moved to Brooklyn, Bushwick, there
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my uncle sold the property in the Bronx
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after a couple of years and we moved
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to Brooklyn. There
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was a bigger apartment, whatever. Jewish
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market. I spoke to somebody who was apparently
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the manager and I
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asked him if he's looking for to hire anybody and
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he said he asked me how old
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are you until I'm 15. He said
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no way. So
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I said okay fine I walked out. On
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the way out I saw that my
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sister's husband worked there. I
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saw he was working there. You hadn't known that
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prior. I hadn't known that prior. First
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Hashkacha Prathes. Yes so I go to him and
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I tell him like you know I
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want to I'm looking for a
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job. He asked me like what are you doing here? I'm looking for
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a job. That was that.
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They make nothing of it and over
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the weekend he told me like
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oh there's a manager there you could
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speak to. He's a cool guy. Gave
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him his number. Text him. Call
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him. Tell him that I sent you and that's it.
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Fine I called this guy. And that'll be
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on Saturday night whatever I call Saturday night
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and I told him look I'm related to such and such.
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I'm looking for a job. Are you looking to hire? So
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he said yeah yeah come through. Fine.
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I walk into this place. It was Thursday
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night. Thursday afternoon. Hectic. Supermarket.
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I'm like what's going on here? And
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I couldn't talk to him for like two minutes and until I
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pulled him over and I said you know like so
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he tells me yeah fine you could
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start next week. I'm like that's
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it. So
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I started working and
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I started just packing groceries. That
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was your first exposure to the Heimerschr
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culture that it's not what you know
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it's who you know. Correct. And this
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was this was an addition to continuing
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your schooling? Correct. Okay. So the supermarket
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the name of
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it is Chestnut supermarket in
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Williamsburg. It's owned by Moshe
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Lezalando. And maybe I should
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have said the age because whatever.
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But anyways, he
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so I started working and three years
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later, read it. And
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I started working there. Once I
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started working there, there
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was nothing really to it. Started
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working. I was packing bags, big rocket
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science house, whatever. Although it's not
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easy. Yeah. I try opening one of these bags
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sometimes they get stuck together. I have a lot
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of respect for the people back in the banks.
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Yeah. So, um,
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then like Paysach season came in and
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Pesach was like a 10 fold
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of what I was used to like working and
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I was promoted to register. So
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I started scanning people out. That's
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when I started talking to people more because
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as a packing bags, you're not really
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talking to anybody. So
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I started talking to people
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and one of the people
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who I, who I spoke to, um, was
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the person who was in charge of the
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Bismuthish next to Chestnut. So Chestnut
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is sitting on Myrtle Avenue right
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next to there's a Satmuth Bismuthish and
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he was the one person in charge of this
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message and he wanted me to, I know how to speak
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Spanish. So he wanted me to speak to
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the go. I'm now working there to the
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workers that are working there. And,
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um, by the way, am I not
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to say going? Yeah. Yeah. And
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so I used to translate for them back
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and forth. One day I was,
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it was,
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I think it was in the
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morning, um, Sunday,
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I think on Sunday and I walked in
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and, um, I found like people
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in Bismuthish early, like
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the afternoon. And
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I'm like, what's going on here? So
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this kept going on for a couple more
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times. I used to walk into Bismuthish and like
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nothing. I was comfortable. One
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day in the afternoon I went in and I'm hearing like,
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khoilis, one of the
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chadudim there, there was somebody
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who was davening for the ummit, but he
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was loud, sharp, his voice was nice, and
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I like, just like, curiosity
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struck, and I walked in like a little bit. I
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didn't know they were in the middle of a minion,
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but they were davening menchah, and
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this guy who was by the ummit, I see he's
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chuckling a little bit, and he's like, really
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emotional when he's davening. I was like,
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what's going on? I'm like, what is this? So,
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I went to the best rabbi. Can
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I interject? Did you have, growing up,
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did you have any exposure to going to church, or
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prayer, any kind of organized
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spiritual work? So my father
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was Catholic, is
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not sure. My
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mother was
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not religious.
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She doesn't really belong anywhere,
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but she believes in God. And
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one of the things growing up that was
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very important, which brings me back to the
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Bronx, because in the
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Bronx we had a period
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of time where my mother and my both
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parents separated, and
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my mother couldn't handle everything financially,
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and my mother used to always tell me, you know,
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like, I don't know where he
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is, who he is, or what he is, but
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know there's God in the world. So
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you have to, before you go to sleep,
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always pray. Thank for the day, and
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ask God to give you another day, more
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blessings, and that's it. Is
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that something that you did, that you practiced? Yes. You
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did? Yes. As
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a young, I'm just curious, what would those prayers look like,
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if you could give us a peek? So...
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Again, one of
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the most important things for me has
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always been family. And even
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regardless now that I converted and I became
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Jewish, I have a close connection to my
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mother because as you guys understand a little
14:15
bit later, she has like, I'm not here
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where I'm sitting today without her. So
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my understanding then was
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not like a person who's 18,
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knows life a little bit. My
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understanding then was, you know, I wanted
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to help my mother. My mother, then my
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mother should have strength that we should be
14:42
able to continue going
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and we should
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be healthy and I should have toys and I should have
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this. These were my prayers. And
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yeah, so in reference to that question, that
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was that. But
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this always, it carried
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along through the years. Like it went from one
15:05
thing to another to another to another. For
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me, one of my strongest things today
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in Yiddish Ged is Tvilla. By
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far it's one of the, it
15:15
is the connection that I have with Hashem. And
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you encountered that for the first time in
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that Satnur Bismandirish during that minute.
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Correct. So you knew what they
15:26
were doing. You knew they were. I didn't know what
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they were doing. Only after I found out, I went
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to Google, Chabad popped up. And
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you must have been so confused. I always wondered.
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I was confused because you have, you know, somebody
15:38
standing by the, by the, by the,
15:42
By Bimadar and Kaddas. And
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he's shuckling and he's davening. And usually like
15:47
the standards are, are, are like, not,
15:50
they're slanted, right? So he's like going like this. I'm
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like, what is this guy doing? Like,
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so I went to Google and I typed in like,
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what do Jewish people do in the afternoon? Bob
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pops up afternoon
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prayers. I went in and
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they had a link to the Shmanessa and
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I was reading through it. I
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was like, wow, it's nice prayer. So
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I started looking at the procedure,
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like ABCs, what do I have to
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do here? And
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then at
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work, as I was learning
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more and more and more, I was asking more.
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So people at
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the beginning is kind of
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interesting because I started doing things
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and asking questions
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to be funny, but really it was
16:40
because I was embarrassed to ask people like,
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this is interesting. I want to know more.
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So I had a very good
16:47
connection with customers and the managers there.
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Because just because I was a good worker and they
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knew me from the store and I was very, like,
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you know, talkative. And so
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I used to ask questions and
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the buildup of those questions led to,
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to, to me being like,
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okay, one day I was like, you know
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what? I want to wear a couple. Yarmulke.
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So I started, it started as a joke, but
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really it wasn't a joke because I had read
17:18
on Chabad that, that there was a
17:20
story of a Ganaf that the mother was crying,
17:23
whatever, and told him if he
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covers his head, he won't be, he won't
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be a thief. So when I
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read the story, I was like, what's,
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what's shot? Like, whoa. What is this?
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So I said, you know what? He
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covered my head. I was like,
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that shows fear of heaven. What does it show?
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Like what? So I
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put on a Yarmulke, only in, only in
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the grocery and people thought it was funny and they
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laughed and this internally, it wasn't funny
17:51
for me, but nobody knew this. Cause I,
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I, I myself wasn't sure what
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this was leading to. And
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then as time went on. on,
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like people started getting friendly with me, people like
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quiz me on different things and I would answer.
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And I don't think
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people really thought much of it. One
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day I had somebody,
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one of the customers, he was technically my
18:15
friend also, he comes into the grocery and
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probably had a day off. He was
18:21
like upset. He comes and he
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rips off my amica and he tells me,
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you can't have it. I
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told him, why?
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He's like, what do you think this is a joke?
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What are you doing? And
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I was like, nothing.
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I'm just covering my head. So
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I put on my hoodie, I had a hoodie then. So
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I covered my head with a hoodie.
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He's like, why are you taking it away from me? You
18:49
want to talk to me? He was upset. He
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went to the back of the grocery, wanted to smoke
18:54
a cigarette, whatever. And I
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followed him out. I was like, give me my capo. And he's
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like, what do you think this is a joke? This
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is a joke to you? And
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then he was a strong,
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a lot of koch. And
19:08
I managed to squeeze
19:10
out the amica from his hand and
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he said something that really hurt
19:15
me. Like he said, you're
19:17
a lost fish in the sea. Wow.
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And I thought about it. And that's
19:23
why it hurt me because I really was. And
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I said, why does it
19:28
hurt me so much? The
19:30
reason was because I was, I
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didn't have direction, I didn't have happiness
19:35
and I was missing something. So
19:39
I started learning more about, want to open a
19:42
parentheses, something that you said that just struck me
19:44
as very insightful. When
19:46
a person encounters an
19:48
insult, if a person
19:50
is confident that what the aggressor
19:52
is saying is not true, then
19:55
it's not so hurtful. It's like me saying to
19:57
you're an alien. Right. It doesn't bother you. I'm
19:59
not an alien. So totally doesn't have an
20:01
effect. But when, when a person
20:03
hits on a cord, when there's this
20:05
thread of truth underlying it, that's,
20:08
that opens up a wound. Correct. And,
20:11
and, and as a result, like he,
20:13
he mentioned this to me and I was, there was two people
20:15
in the, in the, in the room. And
20:17
one of them was like, just like, you didn't know what
20:20
to do. He was like, why, why are you treating him
20:22
like that? But he didn't say anything.
20:24
And then this guy was just like upset. They
20:27
off or whatever. And then
20:29
like, I, I didn't want to cry in front
20:31
of them. So I just like,
20:33
I was like, you know what, forget it. I
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walked out and then I went
20:39
to the side and like I started, I started crying.
20:41
I felt bad. And
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at the moment I didn't, I
20:46
couldn't explain why, but I, I
20:48
like to, I have a reflection process and
20:50
I, I'm con like, it's constant for me,
20:52
like every day at the end of
20:54
the day, it's like, what happened today? How
20:57
did you change? What did you do? And,
20:59
and, and that night I was like, why does it hurt
21:01
me so much? And I,
21:04
it was because of that, because I was really
21:07
lost. I didn't have a purpose in my life
21:09
and I felt empty. And
21:11
then I was already making, I was
21:13
making some money. I didn't have any
21:15
expenses, right? The best life possible money,
21:17
no expenses. So I had nice clothes,
21:21
shoes, everything. Living
21:23
the dream. Correct. Oh yeah. Where did
21:25
you develop that, uh, that daily reflection
21:27
process? That sounds really cool. In
21:30
the Bronx because, because
21:35
when my parents separated, I had
21:39
two sisters, a younger brother
21:41
and a newborn then,
21:44
and they all, they
21:47
all gravitate to me for,
21:49
for, for direction. So
21:52
I'm basically, uh, what
21:55
if a six year old thinking
21:58
from my brothers and sisters. Right. So
22:00
they seek the direction and confidence in me. So
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I had to think, yeah,
22:05
like I knew that my
22:07
parents weren't together. How
22:09
do I
22:11
make it better for them as well? You know,
22:13
like how do I make it less
22:16
painful for them to understand that we
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don't have money for this or
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we didn't have money for that, right? I
22:24
remember, I used
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to sleep on a pink elephant bed. I was
22:29
a boy. Yeah, what boy wants to
22:31
sleep on a pink elephant bed, right? But
22:35
this is what my mother had. And
22:37
it's not like she didn't want to provide for me. She
22:40
just couldn't, right? So
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how do I explain this to a kid younger
22:45
than me? That we are sleeping on
22:47
a pink elephant bed because we don't have the
22:49
money to, right? He doesn't understand this. So
22:53
I had to mature much quicker and
22:57
I had to explain it to him. I
23:01
made something out of it. I don't remember exactly, but
23:03
I think I made like, oh, this is so cool
23:05
and whatever. So the
23:07
reflection process started happening internally for me,
23:09
like why is this happening to us?
23:12
Like, why is my father
23:14
here? Like, does he love us? Does he
23:16
not love us? Like, why is he not
23:18
a part of my life, right? And
23:22
my mother was also helping me answer
23:24
some things because I was very vocal. Like
23:26
if I had a question, I would ask and
23:28
she would answer, you know, she would
23:31
always be good, positive. And
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that's where that reflection process started. And
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as you get older, once you're accustomed to
23:39
do something, like it just becomes like a
23:41
habit. And I
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like, in a sense, I
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think, now that I'm thinking
23:48
about it a little bit more, in
23:51
a sense, like I want it
23:53
to be not like my father. So
23:56
I had to develop traits. completely
24:00
opposite to his. Right. Was it something
24:02
that you were worried about? Like,
24:05
were you worried that you were gonna be like
24:07
your father? In essence, I'm still to this day.
24:09
You're still worried about that. And
24:12
that's why you work on developing
24:14
character traits. Yeah.
24:19
Because I feel that
24:21
that one of the most
24:23
important things that a child sees
24:27
on a daily basis are his parents and
24:30
you could sniff the truth and
24:33
the fake. Yeah. So I
24:35
feel like, I
24:38
mean, I remember all
24:41
the important people in my life. They
24:45
had something that I just
24:47
remember them by and it
24:49
ends up being that this is their main attribute,
24:52
their main quality. So
24:56
I don't want my children to see
24:58
a reflection of anything
25:01
that he didn't show me and
25:05
so I always have. I
25:07
grew up with him, right? So and he
25:09
was part of my life later when they got back together.
25:12
So I was always on the constant, like it
25:14
was a constant battle. Like he's my father and
25:16
I know he works hard and but I don't
25:18
see him. Like he's not like
25:20
he was my mother was my father and
25:22
mother, right? So although he was
25:25
present in the house, like he
25:27
lived there. I didn't have a father like
25:30
he just wasn't there. Right. And
25:32
and as you grow up, I'm pretty
25:34
sure there's a lot of things that that
25:36
that that kids want to speak to with
25:38
a male role model and
25:41
challenges that you have that I didn't
25:43
get to necessarily speak to him, but
25:46
a Shameless is very, he
25:48
helped me out a lot of as
25:50
I converted before you knew I sound correct
25:53
that that that I was able to talk
25:55
to the right people and he put the
25:57
right people in front of me that in
26:00
a sense made up for all that time
26:02
that I didn't have a father. Khazal sayyizu
26:04
khaqam hal lum min mikal odom. And
26:07
hopefully we have enough people that we can learn
26:09
from what to do. But
26:12
sometimes there are people in our life and we have to
26:14
find a way to learn from them also. Sometimes what not
26:16
to do. Right. Once
26:23
I started getting
26:26
more knowledgeable on Yiddish Gight, I
26:30
started asking myself like constantly,
26:34
what do you want to do? Why are you learning? Like,
26:38
where is this going? Why are you doing this? Like,
26:40
you don't really have a purpose on doing it. Like
26:42
learning anything like whoa. It was the
26:44
end game. Yeah. Right. And I was like, I'm
26:46
just curious. So
26:50
it led to another thing. And I used to hear
26:52
Sheedam. And I was
26:54
so intrigued. Like, and
26:58
I had a feeling. I had a
27:00
feeling something warm, like almost
27:02
like belong. Like I belonged there.
27:06
Like my being was
27:10
treading in the right direction. And
27:13
so I reached out to a
27:15
rabbi in Bar-aparq and
27:19
he told me, look
27:21
for the nearest Khabat house. Speak
27:24
to the rabbi. And if
27:26
he wants to teach you,
27:28
I'll guide you. Okay.
27:32
Go back on khabat.com. Type,
27:35
put in my zip code. Ends
27:38
up being that behind
27:40
my house, two blocks down,
27:43
it was Khabat house. Look
27:46
at the stories that are about to begin. It's
27:50
not exactly in Yehuppitzville. This is a... I
27:53
called the Khabat house and the
27:55
rabbi said, the rabbi. Okay,
27:58
fine. Meet me tomorrow. more
28:00
on 7-7. I
28:02
told him what time he says. Seven o'clock.
28:04
Well, he would have said 7-7-D if
28:06
it existed that time. Probably
28:09
seem to say like 8-10 or something. So
28:13
I woke up 7 o'clock. I'm going to ask me, where are you
28:15
going? Told her I need to
28:17
go to school early. Then there was like
28:19
regions, whatever. I was like, they're making a
28:21
pre-class for regions. I wanted to go. So
28:24
this was my, I get
28:26
there and I see a guy
28:29
standing on the corner. I'm
28:31
like, Jinji beard, almost like
28:33
orange. I'm like, I
28:36
know this guy from somewhere. Ends
28:39
up being that this
28:42
rabbi from the Ridgwick community, um,
28:47
used to go to a barber shop that
28:50
is owned by Russian Jews or not religious. And
28:54
I happened to be there once with
28:57
my brother. They were my barbers. I
29:01
was sitting there
29:03
with my brother and we were covering
29:05
our faces. Cause it was funny. Like this guy's coming in
29:08
blowing on a piece of stick. Like what's
29:10
the guy doing? We're laughing there. And
29:13
that memory just came back and I said, asked him,
29:15
you were at this barbershop. He's
29:19
like, yeah. He was like those. And
29:21
he explained to me the whole story on these,
29:23
um, you know, these, um, these, um,
29:25
these, um, these, um, these, um, sorry
29:28
on these, um, you check into there. He
29:31
was, he ended up being my, my, my,
29:33
my teacher. Wow. What was,
29:36
what you, you, you mind saying his name? I
29:39
don't, his first name is no him. Okay. Um,
29:41
his last name is a little bit tricky. Can
29:44
I check? You said
29:47
orange beard. My name has been awesome. I'm just
29:49
making sure it wasn't me. You know, just
29:52
make sure from blues and skills. Not so
29:54
good. I
29:57
have him save the rabbi. No,
30:00
Rabbi Nuchom. Be sure my nachom ain't no
30:02
beithen. No, it's no weight. No
30:04
weight, it was nachom or anything. Who?
30:08
Sarveitchef. Sarveitchef. If
30:10
you could just turn it down, I just
30:12
want to... Yeah, perfect. Okay, perfect. Okay,
30:15
Sarveitchef. Rabbi Nuchom. Rabbi Nuchom, Sarveitchef.
30:17
Yeah. Kewaat.
30:20
So, it's like pretty trippy. Like,
30:23
you were blowing the show from the barbershop and
30:26
I want to become Jewish now. No,
30:29
this was... So, when I saw
30:31
him then in Crown Heights, this
30:34
memory was from like a couple months ago,
30:36
whatever. I don't remember exactly the time, but
30:38
I remember being there with my brother
30:40
and him walking in and building the
30:42
Shofa. So, I asked
30:46
him, he was like, yes. So, I learned with him
30:49
every single day, I think
30:52
about a year, and
30:54
he was giving feedback to the Shofa,
30:57
was leading the conversion until it was
31:01
said and done. And
31:05
then I was coming home.
31:08
From that time where you reached out
31:11
and sort of made up
31:13
to meet at 770, you knew already that
31:17
you were on this journey to Geras? To
31:20
be honest, at the very beginning, like the
31:22
first two weeks, I was still unsure. I
31:25
wasn't sure because I didn't
31:27
know what the response of my parents was going to
31:29
be. And
31:32
I was also testing myself a little bit. I
31:36
thought, do I see myself living
31:39
this life in the future? Do
31:42
I really want to do this? Am
31:45
I able to follow everything? What's
31:48
the purpose? Why are you doing this? That
31:50
was my main question. Why are you doing this? The
31:54
answer to that was that I was looking for something.
31:56
I was looking for closeness and I was looking for...
32:00
for closeness to God. The
32:03
question was who, which one,
32:06
which religion, which path. And
32:11
I had opportunities
32:14
to hear out other people,
32:17
but something just didn't sit right. It
32:19
was either the story didn't match. I
32:22
ask a lot of questions. If
32:24
I ask a question
32:26
and you push off a response or something's not
32:28
answered or it leaves
32:32
you with like, like, Seshmeknist.
32:35
Yeah. And, and I
32:38
asked somebody once, uh, I need from
32:40
Williamsburg, asked him a question and
32:44
he says, I don't
32:46
know the answer, but
32:48
I'm sure there's an answer. You're asking
32:50
the wrong person. I don't know,
32:53
but there is an answer. This was
32:55
for me, like, Oh, there's
32:58
answers. So who
33:00
to ask the question, how
33:02
to get the answer is the
33:04
challenge, right? But there's answers.
33:08
Toyota has the answer
33:10
to everything. You just need to find
33:12
the correct person to answer your
33:15
question. So as
33:17
I was sort of, sort of
33:19
like self testing myself, I,
33:22
I asked myself all these questions over
33:24
and over again, every week, every day,
33:27
mind you, I was going to study
33:30
with him from seven to like eight 30.
33:33
Then I would rush to high school. Then
33:36
after that I would go to work
33:38
and then three, four o'clock till
33:40
11. That was closing 12 ish
33:44
Yumtives before Yumtives. It was till 12
33:46
one. So
33:48
it took a toll and
33:51
I did, I wa I
33:53
was motivated. That's, that was what surprised me the
33:55
most. Like, I wanted to go
33:57
and, and we were learning.
34:00
Tanya has some elevated stuff like it's not.
34:02
But I was like, whoa, what's this? Like
34:05
I was so fascinated at the
34:07
different avenues of condition and this
34:10
and that. And I'm like,
34:15
where was I till now? And
34:19
then I decided, I said, I wanna
34:22
do it. So how
34:24
do I bring up the conversation to my parents?
34:26
Yeah, get home. But
34:30
online, it wasn't online actually, it was
34:32
in a store in Cron Heights, Titsis.
34:36
And then I wanted
34:39
to wear them at night. So
34:42
I took them out to packaging
34:44
and my mother sees him and she's like, what's
34:46
this? I
34:48
told her that they're Titsis. She's
34:52
like, take this out of my house. I
34:55
don't wanna see this. What's
34:57
this? You start working in a Jewish supermarket, all of a
34:59
sudden this and this and that. I
35:04
was like, I wanna wear them. I've
35:06
been studying. I
35:10
wanna wear them. No, we
35:12
weren't raised like this and this
35:14
is in our direction. I told her, oh yeah,
35:17
what's her direction? What's
35:19
our direction? Tell me what's our
35:21
direction. Couldn't
35:24
answer. Exactly, we don't
35:26
have a direction. We're just
35:28
floating through life every single day. One
35:32
day you tell me pray to God, who's that
35:34
God? I don't know, we'll figure
35:36
it out. I think I figured it out.
35:40
Mother was hurt. I'm
35:43
a chit-serve. You told
35:45
her that she was a fish lost at sea. Right.
35:48
And she didn't say anything but she grounded
35:50
me and
35:53
that's when I felt like
35:55
I'm good with my decision. Why
36:00
did you feel Ben, you go with your decision? Because
36:04
if I had the guts to take that step and
36:07
just speak out like that to my mother, I
36:09
respect my mother very much. Right. It
36:14
was like a natural instinct for me to defend what I
36:16
believed in. And
36:20
I thought, you know, I felt
36:22
good. I felt good afterwards. Felt right. And
36:26
happens to be that that weekend
36:28
Shabbos, the rabbi told me, come to my
36:30
show Shabbos. He walks from Kranites
36:32
all the way to Ridgewood, which is like about an hour
36:34
and a half, two hour walk, every
36:37
Shabbos. And he said, come
36:39
down. We're making a minion. You could be
36:41
part of the Shabbos prayers. So
36:44
I told my mother, I'm going to go Saturday
36:46
in the morning to the synagogue
36:49
here. Wasn't
36:52
having it. You
36:54
step out of this house. You're
36:56
out for good. So
36:59
I told her, okay. She
37:01
said, I'm telling you right now,
37:03
you take a foot out
37:05
of this door. I'm going to spank
37:08
you and you're going to remember what my name
37:10
is. So
37:12
I question that. Why are you so upset? You
37:15
didn't you didn't tell me to be something.
37:19
You didn't tell me to be Christian, Catholic, anything. Why
37:21
does it bother you? We
37:23
didn't grow up like this. So
37:26
we, you don't, my
37:29
mother's very different from her family. She's
37:31
the one outcast. You're
37:33
different from everybody else. I'm different
37:36
from everybody else too. Something exactly
37:38
like you. Didn't
37:40
answer, but she wasn't having it. So
37:42
she said, you're going to sit down and that's
37:44
it. So I said, okay, fine. I
37:47
sat down. Everybody weekends, watch
37:49
TV, football, soccer, whatever chips, sit
37:51
down in the living room. I
37:53
took a pillow and I covered
37:55
my face. She said, what
38:00
are you doing? Told her Shabbos we don't watch TV.
38:09
Didn't have what to say. Called my phone.
38:12
Don't pick up. Shabbos we don't answer the
38:14
phone. We don't touch electricity.
38:17
Sat down like a mensch for the first time in
38:19
my life with I bought a challah, whatever
38:22
food. I sat down to eat in
38:24
front of everybody. She
38:27
was not having it at all. And
38:31
I did this for a couple of Shabbos. She
38:34
didn't let me go. And
38:36
I would cover my face and I
38:38
would sleep through whole Shabbos. And
38:42
during those weeks
38:44
I would dive into Hashem and
38:47
I would ask him to make it easier. Just
38:49
make it that it should go
38:52
easy. She's not going to
38:54
back down that quickly. Help me that it
38:56
should work. And
39:01
nature took its course. As
39:03
time went by she became much more sensitive to
39:05
it and she saw that I was really changing.
39:09
And I was doing nothing
39:12
wrong. I was going to school. I
39:14
was in honors. I graduated
39:16
with honors. I was doing
39:18
everything right. I was working. She didn't have what
39:20
to hold against me because I was doing the
39:23
correct thing. It's like you were rebelling. It's only
39:25
was a bad influence. Correct. Quite the opposite.
39:28
My brothers took much more different
39:30
light to me. Like I was talking
39:32
to them about different things. I was
39:35
engaging them in other ways. And
39:38
then comes Simcha Stojra. Simcha Stojra
39:40
was the first yamtiv that I spent. Fully,
39:43
fully, fully, fully. Not fully. I had to make him a lukha.
39:45
But at this point, if you don't mind
39:47
me asking, at this point, did you have converted or not?
39:51
I was still in the process. I was still
39:53
learning. You have to learn a certain amount of
39:55
time. when
40:00
you said about the walk and that you wanted
40:02
to wear a tzitzis, it's an old
40:04
joke about someone who's going through a gyrus. So
40:07
it's a problem, go to Shabbos, it's tricky.
40:10
So he wears a pair of tzitzis so
40:12
that it's extra baguette, it's not necessary. So
40:15
he's carrying on Shabbos. He gets to
40:17
wear a tzitzis and he's carrying on Shabbos. So
40:19
then the person says, oh, but there's an a-rev over here.
40:22
So he says, well, you think I hold from that a-rev? So
40:25
you had to do, so
40:27
you had to do a malachah. Which malachah did he
40:29
do? So what I would
40:31
do is, at the beginning, I would just
40:33
flick, like. Like
40:35
right when Shabbos are. Not when Shabbos are,
40:38
by the end. By the end. I made sure that it
40:40
was a malachah. Why by the end? Because
40:42
it didn't feel right. It
40:44
hurt me to do these malachahs. Meaning
40:46
you would end Shabbos earlier. Why is no is a
40:48
mahalah? While it was still Shabbos. While it was Shabbos.
40:51
Right. I'm sure according to some
40:53
of his monomies, it was not Shabbos anymore. No,
40:55
he made sure, yeah, I made sure
40:57
to, not
40:59
go into the. White after Shabbos. He wasn't holding 72 and
41:01
okay. Gevath.
41:05
And so, at that time I
41:07
was in high school. I
41:12
was in my 12th grade. Wow.
41:15
And I started going black and white. I
41:19
started growing my pious. I started putting
41:21
them behind my ear. And the
41:23
people around me just like, were just like looking at me.
41:25
The interesting part of that whole experience,
41:29
they all knew me from school. And
41:32
I was, I wouldn't say I was a
41:34
popular kid. I was a well-known person. Like
41:38
I said, I had the nicest shoes. Every
41:40
new sneaker release, I had
41:42
the best Jordans, whatever. So people gravitated
41:44
towards me. Like I was with the
41:46
cool guys. So people knew me.
41:49
What was your name? What did they know you as? Nelson. Nelson,
41:51
okay. And when
41:54
this whole change happened,
41:58
they were like a little bit shocked, but they.
42:00
at the same time, they were like understanding in
42:02
a weird way. And I actually
42:04
had a friend, his name was Lamar. Once
42:07
I started explaining to him a little bit more, like, you
42:09
know, I can't touch women, like there has to be like,
42:13
I can't physically touch them. I can only, you know,
42:15
whatever. He used to walk with me through
42:18
the halls. And he used
42:20
to see like, it was, it's natural for people to
42:22
greet each other. Hey, good morning. A hug and a
42:24
kiss on the cheek, right? So
42:26
he'd be like, no, he's Jewish. He can't, he
42:28
can't. Hey, he was your bouncer. Yeah. And
42:32
so I didn't have such a negative
42:35
experience, right? And they, I used
42:37
to talk to them also, and
42:40
they used to understand me and they supported
42:42
me like my friends. And
42:45
so I was going, starting with the
42:47
Levish, slowly, slowly, slowly. And
42:50
my mother was seeing it also. And
42:52
then I decided I wanted to go to
42:54
Etz a Su. I was 17. It was 17 July,
42:57
August. I
43:00
decided I wanted to go to Etz a Su. So
43:05
this was July
43:07
was when I finished my conversion. So
43:09
what happened there was, I skipped
43:12
the chunk. What happened there was the
43:19
rabbi who was guiding me, his name was Avroom Reich.
43:22
He put together the based
43:24
in, he
43:26
checked on my progress and he was
43:28
happy with it. So we started
43:31
with the verse, got a, got
43:35
a circumcision. Then you
43:37
have to heal. At 17. Yeah.
43:40
Technically, that's a problem because they're not allowed to
43:42
only 18, but I pushed them very much.
43:48
Then I had to heal and then I went to
43:50
Villa. And I
43:53
remember walking into
43:55
the water. It
43:57
was, I don't know if it was just me. the
44:00
water felt like it was 200 degrees. Wow.
44:03
Boiling hot. It wasn't... I
44:06
know what McFoo is, you know. A
44:09
high semiqua? It was boiling.
44:11
Like, I felt like boiling.
44:14
It was burning my skin. And
44:16
it wasn't that hot because afterwards I put my hand
44:18
back inside and it wasn't hot. Walking
44:21
in, it was boiling, boiling hot. And
44:24
I was thinking like, this
44:27
is it. Like, you can't
44:30
back out. If you're going forward,
44:32
you're going forward, if you can't, stop
44:34
right now. And I said, no, I'm going
44:36
to keep walking. And I went down the steps and
44:39
I was too. As
44:41
I'll say that, Ger
44:43
gets the nishama in
44:46
the emergence from the mikvah. So
44:48
the person goes in without a
44:50
nishama and that's how you're
44:52
illustrating. And in there... That's
44:55
how I felt at that moment. That's what
44:57
I felt. The sensation from the
44:59
water was boiling hot. Wow.
45:04
And I know that to
45:07
be in a mikvah, to be able to be
45:09
in a mikvah, one needs a nishama. Yeah.
45:12
Kvart. Once
45:16
that happened, the
45:18
davening was different. The learning was
45:20
different for the first week. And
45:23
then it started going down. Really? Yeah.
45:28
So the first mitzvah that I actually did
45:30
was pranzfelen. The
45:34
next morning, whatever. Davened,
45:37
shakras in 770. I
45:41
had a weird thing in my fingertips.
45:44
Like I could feel like
45:47
my body was about to come
45:49
out of my fingertips. I had a pressure on my
45:51
fingertips. I think your tfilim was too
45:53
tight. Those are those little freaks. And
45:57
I felt like when I davened, like... I
46:00
felt my, like I was getting somewhere and
46:04
happened for the first week or so. And then it
46:06
just just went
46:08
away. Yeah.
46:12
So the, so the, the, what
46:15
the intensity or the, and that's not something
46:17
that you were prepared for or you wanted.
46:19
I don't know. I
46:22
don't know. I think that's, that's the
46:24
human condition. When something is new and something is
46:26
fresh, it has an incredible his
46:29
conscious. We see it every year, like a
46:31
little Russian, shiny and Kipper people walk out
46:33
of Nila on a, on a high. And
46:35
then literally could be 27 hours later and
46:37
it's just like, not
46:40
so much. So, so, so the,
46:42
so the people who were mentoring me
46:44
then, um, when I spoke to them
46:46
about this, that's what they told me. They told me, so
46:49
you're fresh off the oven, you know, you
46:51
take out a baguette from the oven, it's
46:53
boiling. You push it down. It's full. It's
46:56
my high. Yeah. Let it
46:58
sit on the shelf two, three days becomes cold.
47:02
Well, I remember one of the, one of, he
47:04
told me, this is going to be your life struggle every
47:07
single day. You need to be burning
47:10
hot, not be cold. You see how
47:12
cold feel. Yeah. It doesn't feel like that. If
47:15
it was that, or it was something else, it was just my
47:17
mind. I don't know, but
47:19
I can only tell you when I felt. Um,
47:23
and then a lot of things started changing.
47:25
Like I was
47:27
going to Yumtiv to
47:29
people's houses. People already knew
47:31
me then the famous, um,
47:34
go that converted in the guy who worked in the grocery
47:36
who packed the bags and now is a year traded in
47:38
the Jordans for a back of. Correct. I'm
47:40
going to leave you're taking a stab at a
47:42
title over there. Well, yeah. Yeah.
47:49
Before that, I used to spend shop.
47:52
I spent Simcha story to buy
47:54
somebody. I'm one of my friends. I'm
47:57
in Williamsburg. That's where my crowd
47:59
was at. And
52:00
I felt there wasn't enough. Life
52:02
led me to decide that I needed to
52:04
go to Ertusurru to go into Yeshiva
52:06
and I had to learn full time. So
52:12
I started getting information on
52:14
Yeshivas and I ended
52:17
up coming across a Yeshiva in Yeshallaim.
52:20
It's called Todu Vemena. It's
52:22
under the guidance
52:24
of bells in Yeshallaim. And
52:28
I called over there, Cheer
52:30
or whatever, spoke to him. He
52:33
has a slot for me. So I'm
52:38
ready to fight at the Serum. Only problem is I'm 17.
52:41
Just my guy. My mother doesn't give me...
52:44
She didn't let me do the country. She
52:47
didn't let me wear titties, you think? She
52:51
still at this point you can learn she didn't come around to it. She
52:55
knew what was happening but maybe
52:58
she thought it was like a phase or something.
53:00
Like, okay, let him do it. So
53:06
once I decided to go to Ttusurru that
53:09
ended up happening. I come to her and
53:11
I tell her that I needed to sign up permission
53:15
that I... She
53:18
didn't want. And that
53:20
ended up being that I schlepped it till my birthday, my
53:22
18th birthday. And I was able to fly by myself. So
53:25
I told her, you know what? I'm gonna go. Whether
53:27
you like it or not. And
53:29
I got up and I flew. I went to
53:32
Ttusurru. I left my job. I remind you of
53:34
the day that I flew to Ttusurru. I
53:37
got a call from one of... A
53:39
big university. Offering
53:42
me a full-ride scholarship to the college. And
53:45
I was like, I'm sorry, but I'm gonna have to decline. Why?
53:51
You know who we are? I
53:53
said, yes, I know, but I'm flying
53:55
to Israel tomorrow. And
53:58
I'm not interested. What
54:01
university in Israel is better
54:04
than us? That's not a
54:06
university. Todavahmen.
54:11
So I get there and
54:16
that's where the new phase of Mayor Weiss. That
54:19
was the beginning of... How did
54:21
you, I guess, either
54:23
you choose the name Mayor Weiss, how did the
54:25
name Mayor Weiss come to be? It happened at
54:27
the... by the bus. By
54:30
the bus. I was contemplating different names. So
54:32
like I mentioned, like you asked me before,
54:35
what my name was. So my name was
54:37
Nelson. So everybody in the grocery anyways called
54:39
me Nusen. Nusen. So
54:44
Nusen was one
54:46
of the names. But
54:49
I always had something from Mayor. Mayor
54:51
is or, like a light.
54:55
And I remember reading somewhere then
54:57
like, guide him, bring light
54:59
to the world. The
55:02
world is dark, air brings light. So
55:06
it ended up... And
55:08
the Weiss? The Weiss was. Yiddish
55:10
was is white. Clean slate, nothing
55:12
behind me. Very good. Clean. You're
55:16
not a sirl. And you
55:18
started getting close to
55:20
bells. So I started getting close to bells, yes.
55:25
I started getting close to bells. I
55:29
was in the Yeshiva. I hadn't seen that ever
55:31
then for maybe 10 months, 11 months.
55:35
Then I was... I wasn't part
55:37
of bells. I wasn't... I had
55:39
more of a... In my mind, that was
55:41
like, you know, all I knew was Williamsburg
55:43
Satmar. So I was in that mentality. And
55:46
the Satmar ever went a couple of times to
55:48
Yishilayim. I was following him, whatever I went through.
55:51
But I didn't have anything with bells then. Then
55:55
one day Chanukah that
55:58
ever likes one... The
58:01
reason why I'm saying like, what do I have with him? Like who is he?
58:05
Is, I always liked
58:07
that male role in my life. So
58:10
I had one of the most difficult things that
58:14
I had was respecting a male authority because
58:17
I never had someone to
58:19
respect. So it was
58:21
like, oh, this guy thinks he's holy. Who is he?
58:23
Like, you know. Like
58:26
summoning me to appear. I
58:29
don't want to go. It's just a
58:31
big mehiketesi. Yeah. And
58:33
I was like, you know what? I'm fine. So
58:35
the Rebbe said, the Rosh Hashiva told me, he's
58:38
like, you know, I'm
58:40
going to tell you the information, speak to this
58:42
other, another one
58:44
from the Rebbe and the Yeshiva and he'll set you
58:46
up. So, okay, fine. So.
58:49
He was like, it's not a suggestion. He's like, you're going to be
58:51
there. It's like when you
58:53
jump out of a plane, pulling the parachute
58:55
is a suggestion. Yeah. He'll
58:58
set you up and you'll go, that's actually fine. What
59:01
do I have to do as one sharp as it doesn't work out? So
59:05
I go out and I dive into the swillows and bells and
59:10
beautiful swillows. I was very
59:13
surprised, enjoyed it. And
59:16
then get to the point where the Rebbe, the
59:18
Rebbe goes out
59:20
through his pathway in the Bismaidish
59:24
and he's walking towards
59:26
me. There's a lot of people waiting outside
59:28
of his room and
59:32
he's walking towards me and I start getting like,
59:36
shaking, I'm like, what's
59:38
going on? Like, I started getting
59:40
like a pachit. And
59:44
we go in and
59:46
we're sitting down, mind you,
59:48
there's nobody was there. Nobody
59:50
was there. The Rebbe has
59:53
a kiddish with the oil. And
59:55
I was part of that, I sat down by
59:57
the Rebbe's table and then afterwards we move into his
59:59
private dining room. where he and his family have. See
1:00:03
them. The
1:00:07
person who was in charge that he tells me,
1:00:10
you go wash yourself. I went to wash myself and
1:00:12
I sit down by the table. Nobody was
1:00:14
there. Just me and that. I'm
1:00:16
like, am I getting am
1:00:18
I getting punked? Where am I usually
1:00:21
when I when I when I did see him, it's like
1:00:23
there's like 500000 people around and
1:00:25
you're one of the here. I'm like
1:00:28
right here. I was
1:00:30
uncomfortable and I just like washed
1:00:33
them in a broken. And I'm just like looking down the
1:00:35
whole time and
1:00:37
I look up and then I was staring at him. He
1:00:40
has his hand like he's just staring at me. I'm
1:00:43
like just
1:00:46
looking down and ran out
1:00:48
afterwards. Right. We finished up. See
1:00:50
that ran out. And
1:00:53
then another week, another week, another week. And
1:00:56
I decided those has something a week after
1:00:58
week. They do it and would invite you
1:01:00
to it was a prep. It was open to
1:01:02
every every week. Just you and him. It's
1:01:04
not only him. It's his family. OK. I'm saying
1:01:07
when I wash myself that first time he was
1:01:09
there by himself. Just like he had
1:01:11
already finished. He had already washed and all the all
1:01:13
the Ionic look and his and the other people were
1:01:15
going and washing and they were doing their own thing
1:01:17
like in the kitchen, whatever. And then I'm like over
1:01:20
here sitting with the like. But
1:01:22
pardon the ignorance, but it's not common for the
1:01:24
rubber to have or to have guests at the
1:01:27
pseudo that ever has one or two that are
1:01:29
there. Frequently,
1:01:31
then usually there's like an extra. So I
1:01:33
was that extra, like, but no.
1:01:36
Wow. That your question is by the numbers
1:01:38
very infrequent. And
1:01:41
then something like intrigued me
1:01:44
about that. I don't know
1:01:46
what happened, what it was. And
1:01:48
I started like listening to his
1:01:51
old toys and stuff. And
1:01:54
I don't know, I just like
1:01:56
it clicked. I started becoming more involved
1:01:58
with people there. And then
1:02:00
I met like my life mentors. One
1:02:04
of them is a son of
1:02:06
the client's ice cream. I'm
1:02:09
the person who started client's ice cream. His
1:02:11
name is a friend client. He
1:02:13
has a son. His name is Jacob Schumann client. It was a
1:02:16
usual line. He himself was
1:02:18
then like he had a wine factory and he
1:02:20
had a lot of guest shabbos. That
1:02:22
was very close to him. Like I used to go to him to shabbos
1:02:25
by night when I wasn't by the Deborah. I would only
1:02:27
eat by him. I heard dessert is epic there. Yeah. It's
1:02:32
an answer. You don't have
1:02:34
clients asking everybody. So
1:02:39
I used to eat with, I used to eat by him
1:02:43
almost every shabbos. And
1:02:45
we developed a relationship and
1:02:48
we were very close. We are
1:02:50
very close to the day. But
1:02:52
he was
1:02:54
that male role model that
1:02:57
I needed. And he was,
1:02:59
he was a fire. He
1:03:03
was the toaster that needed to keep you warm. Yes. He
1:03:07
gave me that direction. Like then
1:03:09
it was all nice and
1:03:13
I was already in the community
1:03:15
and like I'm starting to develop
1:03:17
relationships. But internally
1:03:19
I was still like everything
1:03:21
was happening quickly. And I was
1:03:24
like, what's
1:03:28
my goal? Like where am I going? Like how do
1:03:30
I fix the current situation that I'm in? Like I
1:03:34
literally felt like I was just like lost a little bit. Right.
1:03:36
Like I felt that I was like I
1:03:38
didn't belong anywhere. I like I needed to
1:03:41
get guidance like how to like how to
1:03:43
prepare myself for shaddochim and all
1:03:45
these things. Like I didn't know anything. Right. So
1:03:48
he was
1:03:51
he he instructed me through
1:03:54
everything. He was
1:03:56
there. I used to not only didn't
1:03:58
have a personal relationship with him. the
1:06:01
happiest moments that I had was
1:06:04
when I left
1:06:07
something out that I want to bring
1:06:09
it in to a certain
1:06:11
level. Yeah. When
1:06:16
I was in the early
1:06:18
stages of researching
1:06:21
and finding Judaism,
1:06:25
my mother was picked up by ICE. I
1:06:29
was maybe 15, 16. And
1:06:33
I remember that I was
1:06:36
left with my father and
1:06:38
my two siblings and
1:06:40
my sisters. I don't bring it up because
1:06:42
it gets me emotional. So whatever.
1:06:47
And I took a lead of the house, even
1:06:49
with my father there. I
1:06:51
woke up in the morning. I put my brothers
1:06:53
together and took
1:06:56
them to school. And I always had to portray
1:06:58
that happy face. I had
1:07:00
to be the backbone of the family. And
1:07:03
I remember
1:07:06
that I had an
1:07:09
ice cream, a Haagen-Dazs ice cream, small
1:07:11
mini cup. And
1:07:14
I was sitting together with my brothers. And
1:07:16
I was eating the ice cream. By
1:07:18
the second scuba that I was about to eat,
1:07:20
I looked up. And I see my brothers just
1:07:22
looking at me, craving the ice cream. A
1:07:27
regular kid my age
1:07:29
wasn't going to think, let
1:07:32
me share. My ice cream,
1:07:34
I'm going to eat it. And
1:07:37
I stopped. And I gave it to them. And
1:07:39
I divided it in half and split it. This
1:07:45
moment for me was a very important
1:07:47
moment because I felt happy. I
1:07:50
felt that what I did was good. And
1:07:55
I remember then that.
1:08:00
Right afterwards, like a day afterwards, I went
1:08:02
to visit my mother. She
1:08:04
was in a center in New Jersey. And
1:08:08
I asked God on
1:08:10
the way back, my brothers
1:08:12
were crying. I was,
1:08:14
I was, during
1:08:16
the visit, I didn't shed a tear. I was strong.
1:08:21
Because I had to put that front for my mother. She
1:08:23
needed to be strong. And if I cried, she was gonna
1:08:25
cry. And I knew she was gonna cry. On
1:08:28
the way back, I
1:08:30
remember asking Hashem, and
1:08:33
I didn't know, but I said, I don't know where
1:08:35
you are, who you are. What
1:08:37
I know is one thing. If
1:08:40
you exist, give
1:08:42
me strength. Because I need it. If
1:08:44
you exist, show me your presence. Show
1:08:49
me that you run the world. Show
1:08:51
me that you're in charge. Show
1:08:55
me. And
1:08:59
these dialogues,
1:09:02
almost in a sense testing, expecting
1:09:06
results, were things
1:09:08
that I did in the future as well. And
1:09:12
that's how that
1:09:15
whole tfille thing
1:09:18
started shaping for me. And
1:09:21
then it wasn't about me, you know,
1:09:23
it was, I used to think to myself after,
1:09:28
like, okay, now
1:09:30
that I'm here, where
1:09:33
am I holding? And
1:09:35
I started making a reflection on things
1:09:38
that I saw were missing in the world. People
1:09:41
who were suffering, people who were
1:09:43
passing away. And I thought
1:09:45
to myself, like, what do I have? I
1:09:48
have a lot of good things. Thank God
1:09:51
I'm here. I'm Jewish. I have
1:09:53
that blessing. And I used
1:09:55
to say, don't
1:09:59
give me. If you
1:10:01
have something scheduled like some
1:10:03
some good that you're gonna give me don't
1:10:05
give it to me Put it on hold give
1:10:07
it to somebody else when I'll need it.
1:10:10
I'll borrow it back. Mmm and It's
1:10:14
it started like be it started
1:10:17
developing into like a cycle how I spoke to
1:10:19
a chef and then today
1:10:22
it's Your seat you
1:10:24
see it now That's
1:10:26
very cool. I don't ask for much only
1:10:29
thing I because I Said
1:10:33
before about a purpose my
1:10:36
purpose is different from yours. It's different
1:10:38
from yours At
1:10:42
the end of the day you have a side that
1:10:44
you can go to after this and you could talk
1:10:46
to him and You can say I met mayor Weiss
1:10:48
and he's a get in this. I
1:10:50
don't have anything The responsibility
1:10:52
of building do it is falls on my
1:10:54
shoulders that's not
1:10:57
an easy thing to carry and even
1:10:59
even the more so when I know that I'm
1:11:01
not perfect and I need to better myself and
1:11:04
and I have traits
1:11:06
that I'm trying not to be like my
1:11:08
father and I want to I want
1:11:11
to be good to my kids and the
1:11:13
only way to be to be
1:11:15
that good father is Is
1:11:17
to be truthful and to follow
1:11:19
the truth because kids feel it
1:11:22
they feel it they sense it and That's
1:11:26
where life decisions
1:11:28
change right because although
1:11:32
I'm human and 26
1:11:36
everything's fine and boil. I have
1:11:38
to think to myself I have
1:11:40
to think more maturely than others because
1:11:43
I have to think and I have to say mayor And
1:11:45
this is what I think mayor What's
1:11:49
gonna be five ten years from now What
1:11:53
are you gonna look like even better what are
1:11:55
you kids gonna look like so
1:11:57
every decision that I take has to
1:11:59
you weighed accordingly. So
1:12:04
there are a lot of things that I don't partake in,
1:12:06
that I should partake in, because
1:12:09
my judgment is different. I
1:12:11
have to look out for things differently
1:12:14
than the regular person. Before
1:12:18
I had my two daughters, I
1:12:22
used to dove in every single day. Please
1:12:26
continue my dojos. Extend,
1:12:29
and you'll extend one
1:12:31
more, one generation more. My
1:12:35
second daughter, the same
1:12:37
thing. Now, hopefully I'm
1:12:39
going to still have kids, right?
1:12:41
But help
1:12:44
them extend their... That's how the
1:12:46
tree's going to start for me. Shavout, I
1:12:49
love the underlying
1:12:51
thread. You
1:12:54
shared something very nuanced about deferring
1:12:57
Chasif and Ebeshir to others, and
1:13:00
that's a beautiful dynamic within
1:13:03
Tfilah. But underlying that is
1:13:05
something that I think people that grow
1:13:07
up within Yiddish-kayt have
1:13:11
a bigger avoide of doing this, which is
1:13:14
acknowledging and participating in the
1:13:17
relationship with the
1:13:19
Ebeshir that Tfilah is. And when a
1:13:21
person grows up learning the
1:13:23
Tfilas before we have an
1:13:25
understanding of what the words mean, and
1:13:28
we're just davening the words, sometimes
1:13:30
we're able to fluently and proficiently
1:13:33
get through the entire davening without
1:13:36
recognizing and realizing that we're having
1:13:38
a dialogue with Ebeshir. And
1:13:40
the way you're sharing it is, it started
1:13:43
from that dialogue, from that human
1:13:46
connection with the infinite, and
1:13:49
then that turned into Tfilah, which
1:13:51
gave it some form. But
1:13:54
the relationship is at the core of the whole
1:13:56
avoide. I sometimes feel
1:13:58
that people don't have that
1:14:02
people think like, you know, a girl
1:14:07
comes in like you just mentioned and it's
1:14:09
there, like that was the essence but
1:14:12
I had to work to get there. Sometimes
1:14:17
people can see something that's like you'll tell them
1:14:19
this is white no matter what you
1:14:21
do it's white but
1:14:24
people are not gonna just not they'll
1:14:26
like okay fine yeah it's fine. But
1:14:30
you don't have when you dive into a sham he's
1:14:33
listening to you. I've seen
1:14:35
it across a lot of things. I'll
1:14:38
go back December 31st 2022.
1:14:43
I had finished I was still in college I
1:14:46
was looking at I'm an accountant and
1:14:49
I was looking at different
1:14:51
options. You really got promoted from the
1:14:53
register job. I
1:14:56
was looking at different options when whatever
1:14:59
different places interviewing
1:15:01
my all these accounting
1:15:03
firms and I
1:15:05
wasn't happy. I decided to take an internship
1:15:07
I was gonna pay $20 an hour. I didn't
1:15:10
have enough money to cover
1:15:12
bills and
1:15:14
I'm pushing through I'm pushing
1:15:16
through. I had
1:15:19
borrowed money from somebody. I needed
1:15:22
to give the money back. The
1:15:25
judgment was $28,000. I had 13 saved
1:15:32
on the side that
1:15:34
I was putting away as time went by. I promised him
1:15:36
that I was gonna pay him December 31st 2022. That's I
1:15:38
gave my word. I was trying to
1:15:44
find the high paying job here and there. It just
1:15:46
didn't work and
1:15:49
then I said you know what let
1:15:53
me just I've
1:15:55
done enough. Guide
1:15:58
me. But
1:18:03
I feel that being
1:18:05
true to him is
1:18:08
what he appreciates
1:18:10
so much. I
1:18:12
feel that sometimes people
1:18:15
just like blend
1:18:18
into what is the world and
1:18:21
they forget who they are as a person. And
1:18:25
I always come back to him and I tell
1:18:27
him, look, you
1:18:29
don't have to extend this credit line. But
1:18:33
if you do, don't do it for my sake.
1:18:35
Do it for him. He
1:18:38
needs kids. I have kids already. I don't need them.
1:18:42
You can hold one back, give one to him. Panusa.
1:18:47
I don't have a million dollars in my bank, but
1:18:49
I don't owe anybody money. What's
1:18:52
Panusa for? To become rich? To
1:18:55
have a private jet? What? To
1:18:59
live. I don't
1:19:01
owe anybody, so that means I'm breaking even. I
1:19:04
could use a million dollars, but I don't need it. At
1:19:09
the end of the year, my balance is zero. That's
1:19:12
what I need. I need it to break even.
1:19:16
If you're going to throw in the million, give
1:19:18
it to somebody else. Give it to me. Give
1:19:21
the blessing to this other person, because
1:19:23
I know you're here and I know you
1:19:25
exist. And I know
1:19:27
that no matter what challenge you give me,
1:19:29
I'm going to be there with you till
1:19:32
the end. Something
1:19:34
that I couldn't say for my father, which is also suffering
1:19:36
that I had by him. But
1:19:39
I believe in him. And
1:19:42
no matter what challenge he brings me, I know
1:19:45
that ultimately I'm going to look back to it,
1:19:47
because it's happened plenty of times. It's
1:19:50
just my... I'm
1:19:53
still developing as a person also. It's
1:19:56
natural for a person to reflect and say, I
1:20:00
made a mistake here. Really it was
1:20:02
like this, you know, like, you're a work in
1:20:04
progress your whole life. But
1:20:06
plenty of times I had to give myself a smack in the back of
1:20:08
my head, like, come on, Maya,
1:20:10
you didn't really thought you were gonna
1:20:12
do this. Shambhana did
1:20:14
do this. And
1:20:17
I look back and I see all the blessings
1:20:19
that I have. I don't deserve them. That's
1:20:22
the truth, I don't deserve them. But
1:20:25
I feel that when you think of
1:20:27
other people, other
1:20:31
people need more than you, you know?
1:20:34
The one little reframe that I would offer you
1:20:36
is that if the
1:20:38
Abishter decides to give you that Shefa,
1:20:42
it's not the Abishter saying it's not for Yennim.
1:20:44
It might just be him inviting you to
1:20:47
be that vehicle, to get it to Yennim. To
1:20:52
be the only one of you. There
1:20:56
are those who say. May
1:20:59
I? May I, it's
1:21:01
been an absolute pleasure hearing
1:21:03
your story. You know, many times
1:21:05
I come into an episode and I really, I know a
1:21:08
lot of the content, I know the stories. I
1:21:10
didn't know much. I didn't know much about your
1:21:12
story, about you, but like, I'm
1:21:15
very, very happy now that I do and I'm very
1:21:17
happy that now a lot of people will as well.
1:21:19
Wish you much, Hadzwacha, Shavnach,
1:21:22
some of your children, Pranasa, more
1:21:25
than even breaking even, you know? So for others. With
1:21:28
Dyrus, with Dyrus. Dyrus and Dyrus.
1:21:30
From your beautiful family tree. I'm
1:21:32
saying the point of it is not for me
1:21:35
not to have, and
1:21:38
Yennim should have, is that no
1:21:40
matter the challenge, the
1:21:42
power of my closeness
1:21:45
to Hashem, I'm
1:21:47
not gonna deviate from Him. I'm still stuck with Him.
1:21:50
Yeah, I'm latched to Him. Can't
1:21:53
get rid of me. There are others
1:21:55
that. That need it more than me. Yeah.
1:21:58
Wow. Wow. my bracha
1:22:00
to you, my bracha's hadya to you is
1:22:03
that the authenticity, just
1:22:05
sitting here in the room, like
1:22:07
I can feel how
1:22:09
alive and how on fire your nishama is,
1:22:13
and I hope it comes across on
1:22:15
the audio. But being
1:22:17
in this room, I feel like I'm ignited.
1:22:19
It's palpable. His mamish is, and
1:22:21
my bracha to you is that you had shared
1:22:23
that the nature of Hischachas
1:22:26
is that it fades. And my
1:22:29
bracha to you is that fire, that
1:22:31
authenticity, that genuine connection and relationship that
1:22:33
you have worked so hard to build
1:22:36
and to have with your creator,
1:22:39
that you continue to build that and
1:22:41
renew that and continue to build
1:22:43
that fire. Amen. Thank
1:22:45
you. Ditto. I
1:22:48
have a feeling that this is not the last we're going to be
1:22:50
seeing or hearing of Meruweis. But thank you so much for joining us.
1:22:52
Thank you very much. Thank you guys for having me. Yes,
1:22:55
we'll be back with another episode of Meaningful
1:22:57
People coming next week. Matsuji
1:22:59
Simka Sore, a brand new episode. Stay
1:23:01
tuned for that. Can't wait to bring it your way.
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