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Welcome to a new Life , your Most
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Beautiful Life Podcast . You
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can now also call it the Design your Own Life Podcast
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. Nice title . Yes , it's a nice
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title . That is also the title of our
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new book Design your Own Life
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Choose your Own Future . Today
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in the studio , Cindy Pilarchik-Kuhmann
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and Ashore Sommer
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, co-director of the book Design
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your Own Life , and I am there myself . Michael , Welcome
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, nice to hear you . We are going to talk about
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the book today and especially
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about what we wrote that book .
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Yes , I know that a year ago we were
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outside and then I said to you I
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think , why don't you write a
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book that you want to read yourself when you
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were 20 ? And
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that's where I started .
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Yes , that was the starting
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point and that also
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meant that a lot of young people went to read the
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Master your Mindset , and
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with young I mean
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well , really under the age of 30 . I
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wrote the book for a little bit 30 plus and
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then we noticed in recent years that there have been
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more and more young readers , until
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even 13 , 14 , 15 years . And
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then we sat down with each other and
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I was going to discuss with George what we will do . We will make
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Master your Mindset Junior
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, a junior version
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of Master your Mindset , a younger version . That
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was actually the idea when you said why don't
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you write the book ?
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Yes , and then it actually starts like
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with us all . Then we think , oh
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, then we'll just fit the book to some
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more examples of now and in the end then
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a total out of hand project again .
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And did you do that longer than you expected ?
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Yes , a total new book , and also
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went away , but also realized that that was also a
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very good idea , that actually didn't work at
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all Master your Mindset , To
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fit some other examples , what fits young
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people but that it really had to be a new book . And
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then I said to George is
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it not convenient if we make a laser
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panel ? Because
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we all don't have a lot of
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young artists from our environment
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anymore and
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I thought it was good to see what is really
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playing in their lives at the moment . Where
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are they really going now to really
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go into a deeper conversation with them ? And
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George , what did you put up then ? And
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that was so incredibly fun
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and valuable .
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Yes , it was very exciting to see . I
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didn't have a lot of images myself , but I really
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thought . Gen Z
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, those are millennials . Our
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generation is only a little younger .
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And a little bit for Gen Z
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. What age is it from ?
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Yes , it's from 1996
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to 2012
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, I think . So
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you're up to 24 , but
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actually from 12 to 24 . The
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book was written for the target group from 18 to
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30 , so it's a little wider . There are also millennials , but
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I thought Gen Z , those boys from 18 to 20 , about
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the same age as 30 , they think the
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same way and they have the same issues
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. It was interesting to do some
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research because you notice certain
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things that I don't expect myself . You
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see a lot of stuff that is very much in the dark and
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because you then end up involving 3500
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people , because you
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get such a big sample , you
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can see that some things really have a lot of trouble
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, or these are things that really come often . Because
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I'm curious , because you just said it to Mike you
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wrote the book , what
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you had to write for yourself when you had
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it , because you see a lot of things happening
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to boys . But
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what did you see on social media
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earlier , asking questions that were asked of
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you ? Because after the research , we had a very good picture . What
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was the idea that you had before that , before you started
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the whole process ?
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I noticed that it was a big question where
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the book actually goes about . What am I going to do with my
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future ? How
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am I going to make choices ? I
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just don't know which
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side I should face with my life . But
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those questions were very diverse A lot of
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problems with parents , really a
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lot of issues with parents , with
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education , with choices
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. I just want to be successful
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. I just want to earn a lot of money . I
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want to start a company , I want to be an
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entrepreneur . How do you do that ? And
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you can find that online . There
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are a lot of programs and a lot of examples , but
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as far as I know , you don't really learn that in school
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, in practice . So there is a very diverse
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scale of themes
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that were kept up
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to me where I thought that is definitely
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worth a book .
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What do you think about it
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most after you read the question with the laser panel
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in contact , because a few things are being expressed
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in open .
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Yes , we analyzed the
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results . So first everything was taken over , but
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I also looked at what terms were used . What
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was most used was the future choices
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for the future that one of the three
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people who gave this specific term . So
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I don't know what I want for the future or
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I find it difficult to choose what I'm going to do for the future
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In that way
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. One of the three people who wrote it like this . But
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the important thing is , if you read all those
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stories because we said
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everything , only that research is already a few books on
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content read everything
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. At some point you get a picture of okay , this
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is the target group for you and then you read
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further and that is more established
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. So you really read the same kind of stories . So
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these are also the things that I also
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remember when I was 18
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or 20 . I
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wasn't really working on it . I didn't really have an idea of what I wanted
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for the future . So
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that's a big theme , one of the things that I saw a lot of back then . Besides
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that I have to focus
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on it or
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I'm quickly distracted or
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negative influence from the environment , that
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there are issues with that . Where do I find a
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mentor or a coach , until
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issues that you see less often , like what
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is my life mission , or how do I find a dream
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job , or how do I start a successful business
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. Of course , everything comes to an end , but
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above all , at some point you see those headlines
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and that's why you also
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come up with those 15 questions
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, because these 15 questions come back every
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time . That's pretty annoying
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, that's so .
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So you went to those 15 questions . Maybe you can
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read them , because
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everyone who is listening knows what we're talking about . So
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we filtered all those themes out of those 15
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questions and that's the basis
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of the book where we
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answer them . But above all , we
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give tools so that you can find
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the answer to these questions yourself . We're
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not just going to give the answer . There's more to it than
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the intention that you will be able to answer
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the questions yourself . Would you like to read them
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?
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I would like to read a few of them . How
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do I discover what I really want to live with ? How
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do I deal with the high expectations of others ? How
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do I deal with my thoughts and unrest in my head ? How
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can I deal with parents , friends and other
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people ? How do I deal with fear
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and disappointment ? How can
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I deal with my emotions better ? How
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do I deal with stress
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? How do I get more self-confidence
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?
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That's a couple of fifteen questions .
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Yes , Quite an challenge to do something
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like this , Because I don't know how it was with you
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when you came to ask the fifteen questions and
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when we saw that , I thought well
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, it's a pretty long challenge to answer this in a book .
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I'm curious about the themes that you ask from
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these questions , Because
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we can also see it as themes . How
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much did you recognize it when you were young ? I
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mean between the eighteen and twenty-four . Do
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you recognize yourself in
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some themes ?
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No , I think
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in most cases not Honestly , because
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if you are now talking about stress or
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researching what you want to do with your life or
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your future , for me that was very clear . I didn't have any stress
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. I wanted to work very
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clearly on the radio . I knew what I wanted , how my
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life would look like as
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my life is now . What I personally
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wanted to know more about is
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that , yes , there are a
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few things that are important that we
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will deal with your thoughts . So the whole mindset
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part I
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wanted to know much earlier . I never learned anything
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about that . And the part of the business and money-saving
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I wanted to talk about something
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earlier , or something
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about courage or something about reading . So
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maybe that's why I was eighteen or twenty I
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could have learned what came much later Because
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you have read a lot of books .
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No , never .
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No , right no .
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Once a friend of yours read a book by Bode Schaefer
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, but before that did you read a lot
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of books .
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I never read books like that as far as I remember
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. I thought reading was very stupid
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. I had to read books at school , of course . At the
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port I read D H Lawrence
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and D Lise Lover why
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, no idea ? And the Dave De Jackal by Fredric
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Forsythe and
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Francois Sagan for France , but
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those were some sort of obligatory numbers . I
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thought I read so stupidly . I don't understand what you're reading
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. Why do I have to read a book ? What do you have
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there ? And
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I think that's the challenge of this book that we have written
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now , and I can imagine very well
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that there is a very large group
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of young people school students
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who now also think , hello , why
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would I read a book ? Or do
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I see it as an challenge ?
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Yes , but you do have a number of very specific interests . You
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say so . You knew what you wanted to be . If
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there was something about how you can earn
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more money , you do have an interest
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in it . If I gave Michael this book
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at the age of 18 , and
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said there is definitely something about it , are you
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going to read it ? If you had something like that
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, you would have gone crazy . I'm not going to read it at all , or
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how was that for you then ?
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Well , I would find it very difficult if you ask me this
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question now . So would I be reading this
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book then when I was 18 ? I don't know that
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. But then what
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Cindy just said , a friend of mine gave that book
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by Bode Shever with the title how
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do you get your first million ? How do you get your first
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million ? Well , that was a trigger for me . So
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I wanted to read that right away , just
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like when I had read Girl Rich . That
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triggered me . And how to be a
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millionaire , how to live like a millionaire . I
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found those interesting titles . So
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when you are interested in a certain subject I
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think without the subject you are then willing to read a
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book .
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Yes , so it actually starts with the interests . Yes , because
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then it was for you . Cindy , did
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you leave your book at the age of 18 ?
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No , the same story as for Michael . I
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never read books . I didn't have
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any pleasure in that . No
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, as long as I remember , I never read . And
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Michael gave me the secret
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as the first book . That's a very easy and
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simple book and
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I immediately started reading it and from
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then on I really read a lot of books , all
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about fiction , and I
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found that very interesting . And
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I was 24 years old then
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Because
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I was writing the book for young people and
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I also meant the book I wanted to read at
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that time . And
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I also noticed we noticed that Mastur Mindset was
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a little more focused , also with the example
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of 35+ . There
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is actually not really a book that , if
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you are 22 years old , which
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in this matter is simple and easy to
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explain , which
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is also easy to read , especially for
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people like me , and I just don't read that
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much yet Then it's
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nice if it's easy to write as
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you go through it easily and I also find pleasure in
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reading and I also think that in combination
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with a lot of assignments that are included
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here , the summary that you have made at the end it's
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super easy to read and
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we get a lot of that back from the target
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group and we also really have a lot of awareness about
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it . Do you also ? But I know for
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you it was different .
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You read a lot . When I was really
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12 , 13 , 14 , I didn't read a lot . I
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was going to read , especially because my mother just
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bought me books , and not
13:37
that she wanted to , but she liked it , of course
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, because she thought , okay , maybe
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she'll read it , and I think it was
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her intention to get
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me interested in books , but she didn't really
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need it . So you have to read this . Or it's more
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that I got a new book for every opportunity
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, until
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she had a book from a fantasy series for young
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the grey year-olds , and
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that still exists . Then
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she bought it for me . Well , I thought that
14:02
was a booyant because it was a story
14:04
. I was completely taken in there . I
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thought , well , it's actually interesting . Then
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I got that whole series , of course , and
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after that I did get a little
14:14
further into it and
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I thought maybe it's also fun to read something else . And in that
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way I think that
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you can have interests in
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all kinds of things , especially if you really have
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all the children who are interested , if
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you then spark those interests . So
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if you're working on that and you
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further dive into it yourself , then you'll find a
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whole world of possibilities . So
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when I was 16 , 17 , 18 , I was really
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a lot , but that's still fiction
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, so it's really that I was working
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on this kind of theme . That
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was also well , a lot later two , three , four
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and twenty , actually from philosophy , because
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I was going to read philosophy Most
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of all . That's also in my case , in the case of you
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start with the real old philosophers , then you
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go more to modern times and at some point
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you also get into the approach with books , for
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example from Hill , that you come across that for a while that
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you think , oh , this is super interesting . But
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that was also when I was four , five , twenty that
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I really was working on those kinds of things . And I think
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that's because there really is
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very little what is really written
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for the target group , what is really accessible
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yes , that's right . Also
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, if you're 18 , then even if you read books , then
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you really read in a very different
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way than well , like we would now
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read a book . And then
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the whole challenge , which you also said , mike , that
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if you read little books , how do I look at books
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, that it really has to be extremely accessible
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and it must also be
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connected to the needs that you currently have .
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But what I'm reading in
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the first feedback and the reviews is that
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the mission has been completed
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through
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reading we will come back to that but that
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it is written
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in a way that it is very accessible and understandable
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easy . What
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I often have with these kinds of books if
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you have a lot of books about yourself that
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it is often so dusty and so I
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have to go through it then I often
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put it away . And this is
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fun to read , with a lot of practical
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examples of young people who
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we have spoken to , who tell their stories . So
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it is also a very recognizable mirror
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for many others . Oh , I don't have that
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problem alone . That has
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Cindy , and Shores has that too , and they
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have solved it that way , and
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that's why I think it's a very valuable book
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, because
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it's written so easily . From now on .
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Yes , I think it's nice to pick up
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a piece or a theme and
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make the power of choice . Why
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is it in there ? Why was it important
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?
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It is important because we have seen
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this again . First of all , we started with
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that book . It started when
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Sir Mike said for young people . Then we saw
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that the whole bottom line parallel that this
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has to be completely different . One
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of the things that I said too soon . What came back
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a lot is future and choices make for
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the future , and the
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big question is then what is a good choice
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? And that is often made very
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big . Then you make
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a choice for always and very exciting because
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you are very aware of what can
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and can be very much . So
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what is a good choice ? That
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question is very much set , so
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it is interesting to see where that question
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comes from , but also to write about
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it . What
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is a good choice ? Is it a choice that fits
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you ? Why
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is that choice good or not ? That
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is why this piece is in there , and also quite a bit at the beginning
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, because
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you don't want to choose what you want to do with
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your life or what are
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the choices that go into the book later
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, with whom you are going around or
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what you are going to do with your health . Then
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it is convenient to read something about it earlier
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. When is a choice , then
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? For me personally , a good choice .
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I think there is a lot of fear in
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a lot of areas and especially when it comes
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to making choices . I am , I don't
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know , 16 or 18 or 21 , and I have to
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choose and there is a certain
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pressure from outside . That pressure from outside we
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have seen a lot in the feedback . It
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probably comes through the parents
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, the expectation pattern from outside
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. But if I choose the wrong study
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, then yes , then it
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is very often then then it is the point point point , because
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afterwards there is no answer , but there
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is often fear that I do the wrong thing , make
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the wrong choice . And what we try to
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make clear is maybe
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give clarity , to make people
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more aware that
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it is not as big as you might think
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, that there are only few
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choices that are so big that you cannot
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change them anymore . If you choose
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something and it does not fall , you
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can just send it back . You
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do not have to , if you are so young , to
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cut your whole life out until the last detail , only
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what we imagine . That is a bit my vision . It
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is nice if you have an idea of how
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your life should look like and
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if you charge it you could say do
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you want to have a luxury life
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with everything on it . Do you
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want to take everything out ? Or
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you say , well , I prefer to
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sit on the other side of the universe , I
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see where it ends , and if I end up in the big one with
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only misery and drama and problems , then
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I think that's good too . It
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is a bit like you know which side I want to go up , and
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I think it is almost understandable
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that you do not have a
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certain vision and whether that is well . I'm going
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to live in a house of wheels and I start
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a family and I have a dog and a
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middle-class car and I have a relaxed job . I
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do not work too much , but I have a lot
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of free time . I can go around with my friends , my family
19:57
, my family , and that makes
19:59
me happy , because I think that's important . That
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is what makes you happy , what makes me better
20:03
and happier . That is also good . But
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you have to know a little bit
20:07
which side you are going up and you
20:10
have to make that choice yourself and from
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there the Dutch subtitle also chooses your own
20:14
future . It is about your future , but
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you do not have to have
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your whole lifebook written for the next 80
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years , and I think that too much uncertainty
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is coming from that .
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You are just saying that you have to know a little
20:29
bit which side you are going up , and
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I also think
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that you know that by doing things , by
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taking things , what sometimes
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happens to me is that there is little done
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and taken
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and the less you read , the less you have your
20:45
side-lines
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. The less you work , the
20:50
less you study , the
20:53
less you also know what is not right for you . And
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I think that making choices is also easier
20:57
if you take more into account . And
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it was like there was a kind of freeze-hast , but
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if I do that , maybe that is not good and
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I think that right when
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you are 16 to 25 , 20 is
21:12
a super nice period to try out a
21:14
lot and to cover and
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make it easier for you to make decisions there , and
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I also see a bit of pressure from the parents on that
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. It should be the right direction
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, so it feels for me .
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And then you choose a study , for
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example , and after a year you realize that this is not what
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I want . But
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I have someone who told me that I
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have come across something in a book
21:41
or whatever it is . You
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hear , what I actually want is that side , but that
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insight that you would never have done if you hadn't made
21:49
that wrong choice for your study . And
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that's why , if you start with the idea
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that you have to choose
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one study in my life and
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that's what I'm going to do , there's only one job
22:00
for me Then if you look
22:02
at it in that way , you get a kind of freeze . Then
22:05
you get that fear of making mistakes Because
22:08
it's so static . And
22:10
if I understand you well , I also say that it's
22:12
more . It's more
22:14
we're going to do something .
22:17
I think it's going to be very important . It's going to be important
22:19
and you'll get something on your path . The
22:23
choice was finally made by me , but
22:27
the choice was to write a novel . Then
22:30
the choice was in heaven . Master
22:32
of Mindset wasn't a very conscious
22:35
choice . Everything
22:39
I do now is not something I'm thinking about . That's
22:41
the outcome . Because
22:43
of the things I do . Because I came across Cindy talking to
22:46
other people , I
22:49
discovered that I could help people
22:51
. Based on my own experience Because
22:53
of helping people the last ten years , I learned a lot again
22:55
. That's why I think I've become much
22:58
better at it . That's why we could have written this
23:00
book . But
23:04
things come on your path Because of the money
23:06
for Cindy , of course . If
23:09
Cindy and I hadn't come across each
23:11
other , you might have done something different .
23:14
I want to tell you a fun story . What
23:18
would be my tip for young
23:20
people ? One
23:23
of them is to make sure you work in places
23:25
where you can spread your network
23:27
. When I went to study
23:30
, I worked in a café on the 9 streets
23:32
. I knew there were always
23:34
many interesting people sitting there . That
23:42
brought me to a network where I would
23:44
never come back . I
23:46
know a lot of valuable people who
23:48
I still talk to . I
23:51
met them when I was 18 . One
23:55
of the guys who always came to the café was a
23:57
poker player . He was called Arthur
23:59
. I told him
24:02
I was going to Barcelona with my girlfriend . He
24:04
said he needed to meet Thijs
24:06
, a friend of mine who lives in Barcelona . I
24:08
gave him my number , sent
24:10
him a message and he made sure I could
24:13
come to all clubs . He
24:15
knows everyone in Barcelona . A nice guy
24:18
contacted me and made sure he was
24:20
making the way for me in Barcelona . I
24:23
contacted Thijs , otherwise I would never have
24:25
come . I knew Thijs
24:27
and I knew you . I
24:30
think it's a tip when
24:32
you're young to work in places to
24:35
walk on stage , where you can contact
24:37
these kinds of people .
24:42
But also go to work somewhere where good people can
24:44
learn a lot . I think that's valuable
24:47
for later . Start with the
24:49
bottom line . Understand that you don't
24:51
know anything . So start from
24:53
the bottom and look around you . Learn
24:57
from those good people .
24:59
I think that if you look at your past
25:02
life , you've always learned so much
25:04
. I
25:07
think that maybe you've been unconsciously a
25:09
sort of strategy To
25:14
always learn from people who you want
25:16
to learn from , to go around with them
25:18
. When
25:22
you went to the fields , to the radio
25:25
, you always
25:27
went around with those people .
25:31
That's what I've always said . Look for an example when
25:36
I worked at Veronica in the late 80's , my
25:38
example was with the radio Jeroen
25:41
van Inkel , Of course . It was a gigantic
25:43
example , together with Adam Curry and
25:47
in the voice field , which I've
25:49
done a lot with , which
25:51
has been a very learning process for me . For years
25:54
I had Alfred Lagarde
25:56
and Jos Berge Hennigau . That
25:59
was when the two
26:01
big names and voices were really in that area and
26:03
I was walking with them day and night , but
26:07
literally day and night . We
26:09
were often in the studio until 3 , 4 , 5
26:12
in the evening and then I was there as
26:14
a little boy . I didn't drink coffee for Alfred
26:16
or Jos , and
26:18
then I could listen and see how they were doing , and
26:21
then I learned a lot from that . I
26:24
spent the night with those guys in the studio . So
26:27
if you look at people who
26:29
were successful in their lives at a later
26:31
age , they weren't
26:33
just one or two years old . They've
26:36
been doing that since they were very young . I
26:39
was talking about the period when I was 18 . And
26:42
that sometimes I said to them at 3 o'clock in the evening
26:44
I think I have to go home
26:46
, otherwise my mother will be disturbed . And then they said
26:48
do you want to work here ? Do you want to
26:50
get ? Well , Then I'm going to get the crook
26:52
, then you'll come back , and so I
26:54
go then , and I think I
26:57
learned a lot of
26:59
work ethics from that . But
27:01
I just looked a lot away from the best , and
27:03
that may be an important advice for everyone
27:05
. Look for people who are really
27:07
good in a certain area where you would
27:09
like to go , and you can learn from
27:12
that .
27:13
Yes , it's of course a very old model
27:15
, a teacher-master-learning model . What
27:19
has already been adapted to it for thousands of
27:21
years ? It strikes me
27:23
that at young age
27:25
I see it less and less . For
27:28
me , that's really a teacher-master's very
27:30
conscious search .
27:32
But is that also not because there are
27:34
less targeted interests ? Because
27:36
if you're very interested in something , then
27:38
you look at it as this is . I think
27:40
this is annoying , that I want to be good in who
27:43
is good in there . That can then be an example for you
27:45
and then you can
27:47
also take the necessary action to get in
27:49
contact with someone like that . If
27:52
you don't know , if you have
27:54
no idea what you want and also don't like what
27:56
you actually think , and
27:58
you have no interests , how are you
28:01
going to find someone who will help you
28:03
? I mean , then you don't
28:05
have a direction Because
28:07
, look , you said you went there , you
28:10
went to work , you came in contact with people . How
28:13
was it for you in the past when you had
28:15
that age ? Because you are not going
28:17
to work for a place where people
28:20
come with networks .
28:21
Yes , I came to live in Amsterdam , of course . I was 18 years
28:23
old and I thought well , I want to meet nice people . And
28:27
where do you have to meet nice people ? In
28:29
the interesting nice cafes in the Kroeg
28:31
, yes , and then you can choose every Wilker
28:34
Kroeg . I did some
28:36
research on which network I
28:38
want to get in contact with .
28:42
So you are also very focused on that because you didn't
28:45
think specifically that you would have
28:47
done that . I'm going to put that network in front of
28:49
this or that , but
28:52
you notice that there are opportunities . I'm
28:54
going to make at least a lot of contact there . I can learn a lot
28:56
.
28:57
It seems more interesting than , for example , in a tourist
28:59
cafe where everyone is walking . And
29:03
the other thing is that that would be
29:05
absolutely my advice , even
29:08
if you might say , if you don't know exactly
29:11
what you want to do , I already
29:13
knew that very clearly because I didn't know that either
29:15
. But
29:17
during my internship period
29:19
I sat at a PR office which
29:22
was very well written for very well-known brands and
29:26
I thought , well , I don't know exactly
29:28
what I want , but
29:31
if I later know a company or what I know , then PR
29:33
is an important
29:36
part of it . And if you're
29:38
good at PR , you can buy everything . And
29:40
in particular , if you have a product , it has to be sold , it
29:42
has to be known . And
29:46
I thought , if I sit at my own rest for
29:48
half a year , I'm going
29:50
to learn a lot . And I learned so much
29:52
from that . It was
29:55
really sort of devil's wear spread . So
29:57
you just get a half year old . It
29:59
was really pittish , but
30:03
, just like with me , you learn a certain work ethic
30:05
by
30:10
playing at a level like that at a company , at a lady's place
30:12
. And that would be absolutely
30:15
my advice Make sure you choose
30:17
stages in final scripts very
30:20
carefully and make sure you
30:22
can learn a lot at places you can go to . That's
30:26
really the moment .
30:28
So you're your own teacher .
30:30
Yes .
30:33
That's what we're going to do . When we
30:35
started Mastermind Academy , we said , yes
30:37
, all those things you don't learn at school , all
30:40
those things you don't always
30:42
learn from your parents in your upbringing , we're
30:45
going to offer our own school for that . We
30:48
did that . This is our way of
30:50
learning how to learn
30:53
things that are very important to your life . But
30:55
, of course , you can also share your own
30:57
school of your own , and I
30:59
think it's interesting to learn this or that , and
31:02
online and on YouTube and Google , you can find
31:04
almost everything you can find
31:06
yourself in . Everything is
31:08
there . It's much easier
31:10
than my opinion .
31:17
So the question is why are there so many young people ? My
31:21
idea is that there are more young people
31:23
who don't know what they want . Why
31:25
is that question arise ?
31:27
I think that used to be in the game . When we
31:29
look at your time , I think that you
31:31
have a generation in front of you . I
31:33
think of that completely . But when
31:35
I look at my father , it was
31:38
just the tool company . My
31:42
father was in high school . He went to the building
31:44
. As a child he worked
31:46
in particular , every day . After
31:49
that he went to the tool
31:51
company . I
31:53
still have an uncle who studied , but there wasn't a lot of choice . I
31:56
think that was especially for the generation
31:58
of our parents . There were
32:01
fewer conversations . I
32:03
think you did a lot more what your father did already
32:05
and there were a few people who went to study
32:08
. They became an artist , but that was often
32:10
in the family . Or you became
32:12
a truck driver . I think there was also a little less . I
32:14
think it was just a little more transparent . You
32:18
went to the LTS or study or you
32:20
just came into the field of work . At
32:24
that time I think it was much
32:26
less choice .
32:28
Is it possible to make it more difficult
32:30
, or do you have to make it with a certain mentality
32:33
? You asked me .
32:35
I think it all has to do with mentality and
32:41
that whole generation of what I want . If
32:43
you don't know , you get the leftovers
32:46
. It's so simple you choose , you can
32:48
choose , you have all the freedom to choose . It's
32:51
difficult , it's hard to work with it , otherwise
32:54
you get the jobs you're not happy with . And
32:57
the other problem is that , in my opinion
32:59
, the image of expectations
33:02
of the outside world and parents that
33:06
you all have to present , I
33:08
think that's all part of it . I think the ambition level
33:11
was dramatically lower than I look at the whole generation
33:13
, but on the other hand
33:15
, I see that we , the generation of
33:17
me , the parents of Gen Z
33:19
, have
33:23
become a lot of pudding generation themselves .
33:27
I think if we look at
33:29
the parents of Gen Z and look
33:31
at the burnout figures , then I
33:33
think that there are already a lot of
33:35
parents of these children who are
33:37
in a burnout .
33:39
I spoke to a good friend of mine from the
33:41
week we were
33:43
together and he said I have a
33:45
new job . A
33:48
girl , a lady from just
33:50
30 under 30 . And she
33:52
said I want to work full-time . We
33:54
said , oh , what's nice . Finally someone wants to
33:57
work full-time again . So she said for
33:59
the security . I used to ask and what's full-time
34:01
with you ? And then those ladies
34:03
said 28 hours . And
34:08
we often notice that people don't want to work until
34:10
max 22 hours a week
34:12
and that's fine . I
34:16
certainly have a opinion about that . But if you want to do that
34:18
, you have to do that . But don't fear
34:20
that someone who works 60 hours a week will earn 2
34:22
or 3 times as much money and that
34:25
he can buy a nice house and you don't . That's
34:27
a logical result and that's
34:30
in the whole process
34:32
of writing this book it has become clear to
34:34
me . I thought that
34:36
the generation was
34:39
a little more weak . If you read about Gen
34:41
Z , then the generation is weak and sick and
34:43
poor , and some
34:45
have that . But a very large
34:48
part of that group is ambitious
34:50
and is well-informed
34:52
and does well things and is well busy with
34:54
the future , and that makes me
34:56
very happy . So
35:00
I think there's a lot of hope for this whole
35:02
generation . But you have to read this book . I
35:07
think that for a lot of people , being
35:09
an eye-opener
35:11
, a life-changer , can
35:15
really give a basis for
35:17
how you want to give your future
35:19
. I think that the book , that everyone there
35:22
it doesn't matter if you don't know what you want , or if you do know
35:24
what you want , that
35:26
everyone will help you a lot .
35:30
Yes , I want to take another
35:33
theme out persuasion
35:35
, and I
35:37
know that when I get to know you
35:39
how you think about yourself , your
35:42
thoughts , what thoughts you have a
35:46
negative mindset , a good
35:49
mindset I
35:52
think that for me , at the
35:55
end , is life-changing . What
36:01
are your thoughts on yourself
36:03
? I think that's very
36:05
important . Can
36:08
you still remember how you
36:10
got into ARAC ? I think you shared
36:12
a lot with Penya about mindset
36:15
and your thoughts on yourself
36:17
.
36:17
I think so , but I
36:19
couldn't remember . I
36:22
couldn't remember
36:25
. I was 29 at the time . I
36:29
had few overwhelming beliefs . It
36:33
was different . I was pretty
36:35
much knocked out . I
36:37
thought I could do everything , that I knew
36:39
. Nothing was impossible . I
36:43
did show the opposite , but
36:46
I never had any overwhelming beliefs
36:48
. I was very
36:50
relieved . I
36:56
was a bit invisible
36:58
in the class . I never
37:01
had any fear of being kicked out . Do you know why you
37:03
were relieved ? I
37:05
was scared to death when
37:10
you got the message from Kolev Juzek . I
37:12
thought it was a drama .
37:16
Why is that ? Because you see that when it comes to expectations
37:18
of other people or someone
37:20
finds something in the class as a child
37:23
, then it's terrible
37:25
. If you have to stand in front of the class
37:27
and read something , everyone thinks that's
37:29
terrible . Isn't that a fear ?
37:32
That would be a fear . I
37:34
never experienced that as a problem
37:37
. I
37:40
was so relieved I thought it was a drama
37:43
. Who doesn't have that ? When
37:45
you have to stand in front of the class ? Maybe
37:48
at home , when you had a birthday , the
37:50
whole family was there . Tell
37:53
us that story . You thought , oh
37:55
no , I always had the same red
37:57
head . I was terrible .
38:01
Maybe everyone has that , but
38:04
what's striking is that some people are still having
38:06
issues later . Other
38:08
people are less .
38:09
I want to read a bit for you , which I think
38:11
is a nice piece . Why
38:14
do you think like you think
38:16
? I think that's a great question
38:18
to think about . For a long time , your
38:22
convictions are outstanding , without being aware
38:24
of that , especially
38:26
in young years and during your upbringing , your
38:30
life conditions , your income , your culture
38:32
, your education , your parents
38:34
, your friends and your teachers . You
38:37
don't have to do anything . What happens
38:40
is that , without you going through that , those
38:42
convictions are being beaten up and that's
38:44
your belief , even if
38:46
you haven't asked about that . I
38:49
call it your programming or your management system
38:52
, because during
38:54
your life , everything is programmed
38:56
in a system and that management system navigates you
38:58
through life . Compare yourself
39:00
to the computer . When you're born , the
39:02
hard-to-write and working system is empty . The
39:05
management system is version 1.0 . After
39:08
that , all the impressions are being pushed aside . The
39:11
hard-to-write is filled with all kinds of circumstances , experiences
39:14
, learning moments , feelings
39:16
and thoughts , partly positive , partly
39:19
negative . For
39:23
me , thinking about reads is
39:25
also a big part of the convictions you get . I
39:29
think that for myself , when
39:31
I was 24 , it was incredibly interesting
39:34
. My life has
39:36
changed because I'm aware of
39:39
why I think about money . What
39:48
thoughts do I have about myself ? What
39:51
thoughts do I have about my
39:54
friends ? And
39:58
I think that by being aware of that , I
40:02
can see that I've been given money from home , I've
40:05
been given work , and
40:07
how to see the results of my work Science
40:11
, of course . You
40:13
often see people from a doctor's family coming
40:15
from science . You
40:19
see that everything that has to do with spirituality
40:21
is not allowed to be or not to be included
40:23
. Why
40:26
do you think so ? Why
40:28
did you get rid of that ? Why
40:31
did your fate stop thinking
40:33
about it ? Because you
40:35
think you're good . That's how you hear it
40:37
, and
40:40
everyone has that in his own way by
40:42
the teachers , the mentors , but also your friends
40:44
A huge influence on your friends'
40:47
parents . And
40:49
then I asked myself how does your best life look like
40:51
when I was 24 ? How would
40:54
you like to work ? Is
40:56
it so boring to see
40:58
? Oh , but just grab a white , white A4
41:00
, and I'm going to look
41:03
at everything
41:05
again . How do I think about money ? How
41:07
do I think about health , what
41:10
you also see very often my sisters
41:12
have the food sisters . Almost always
41:14
people with overweight have
41:17
one of the elderly who also has overweight . So you
41:19
have a certain way , a certain habit . You
41:21
have to think about it in a certain way
41:24
seen by your mother or your
41:27
father . When your mother is an emotional eater , you often
41:29
take that over because
41:31
you just don't know anything else . What I see , what I
41:34
do , and I think that's really valuable
41:36
. When you're 20 at the beginning and
41:39
you look at what kind of
41:42
persuasion was very beautiful , what was super
41:44
valuable , what I learned from my parents and
41:46
where I could maybe find other
41:49
mentors or teachers for or
41:51
other books to see if I can
41:53
spread my thinking field , if
41:56
I can think of something outside
41:58
that frame , and
42:00
that's what I really hope . If
42:02
you're a young person with this
42:04
theme of persuasion , that
42:07
you can spread it and
42:09
when you succeed you're so much
42:11
freer because then you have a choice .
42:14
So it's actually about being aware of how the standard
42:16
is . This
42:19
is not reality . What
42:22
my vision of reality is , that's a perception
42:24
that's colored by what
42:26
my parents always said oh
42:28
good , if you've got this number , or
42:31
whatever elders say , or people in the family
42:33
, that's all going on . But
42:36
at some point in your life , that perception of hey
42:39
wait , I'm running a program . This
42:41
is I also have an influence here . These
42:44
are certain persuasions that are in me . Do
42:46
they bring me further or do they not ? That's what you
42:48
mean .
42:48
Yes , and I think the biggest difference is being
42:50
aware of it , and that's
42:53
what I really thought about you being aware
42:55
of it , because
42:58
before that I was just like that
43:00
, very much like I can
43:02
. That's just how I am .
43:04
Yes , what's actually good , which we also
43:06
saw in the research the PEG
43:09
generation that word , so that someone
43:11
from 18 or 20 , who says I'm
43:15
living my life like this and that's also because
43:17
I'm in the PEG generation and houses
43:20
are too expensive , that's
43:22
actually the persuasions that speak , because
43:25
if you look at reality , is Gen
43:27
Z now a PEG generation ? I know what
43:29
you think of that . I think so too . We
43:34
live in such a good time . There are so many beautiful
43:36
things , there are so many opportunities
43:38
. You see in the generation a kind of split-sync , where
43:40
you also have a group that has
43:43
real young entrepreneurs who know really
43:45
beautiful things to achieve . You
43:47
have only a laptop needed and you can build a nice
43:49
company . In principle , that's
43:52
it too . Why would you say this is the PEG generation
43:54
or that comes from there ?
43:57
I also understand that there are instructions
43:59
by the circumstances in
44:01
this time that you say
44:04
I'm now a victim of , for example , that
44:07
you have to pay rent for your study debt , then
44:09
you can say that's very annoying . That's annoying too , but
44:12
that's not why you're suddenly a PEG generation
44:14
and you can compare it to what
44:16
people say . But
44:20
you were born in the right place
44:23
in the right village , so
44:26
what ?
44:26
makes the difference , why
44:28
makes one the choice to be a victim
44:31
and why makes
44:33
the other the choice to be a winner . That's
44:36
the difference .
44:37
We described that in a book .
44:40
Yes , but people asked this .
44:41
But I want to go back to the point because Cindy had that
44:43
conviction One
44:47
of the first reactions I received from a mother who
44:51
bought the book for one of her children . And
44:53
she says I open the book on a
44:55
page where it says that you write
44:58
diplomats are not needed
45:00
. We have a head , a
45:02
piece of text about it . I don't think
45:04
diplomats are needed to be successful . So
45:07
she was very enthusiastic about the book and she
45:10
said yes , I'm not alone
45:12
there , because
45:14
this is false foresight . Diplomats
45:16
are very important because they have
45:18
to have something to fall back on . And
45:21
then she thought this is exactly what you mean with these convictions
45:23
. There are only a few people with
45:25
diplomas who are successful and have a nice life . Most
45:27
people just come into the big middle of the road and
45:30
they just go with them in the grey stream . But
45:32
most people who really have a nice life but
45:35
no diplomas in any case , the diploma
45:37
they have is not where they do something with it , often
45:40
the people who take the creative
45:42
people who do something
45:45
new every time . But if
45:47
you don't have that ability or you're afraid of it because
45:50
you just want that fixed salary , you
45:52
have to look for a job and then you need a diploma Besides
45:55
, of course . But the descriptions
45:57
are also expanded , they are very realistic . If
46:00
you become a doctor or a pilot , or for certain professions
46:02
, you need a diploma . You
46:06
have to study for a long time , that's logical .
46:08
Yes , I hope that people don't misinterpret
46:11
it when they listen to something , because
46:14
it is , of course , a sign that I am
46:16
a huge representative
46:18
of that , that you are
46:20
very well known in certain field
46:22
areas and you have a lot of knowledge , but
46:25
you don't have a HBO or
46:27
a HVO diploma or whatever you need for a diploma . But
46:30
I am a representative of
46:32
that . You are well known and
46:35
look for good teachers in that area
46:37
.
46:38
But that's written too . You
46:40
have to understand it very well .
46:42
Yes , sometimes I notice that people misunderstand us a little , but
46:44
this is just incredibly important . It
46:46
is a very big factor of successful
46:48
people that they do know
46:50
a lot about things .
46:53
Look , what I mean is , if you get your
46:55
HVO diploma with all sixes , are you
46:57
not good enough ? You only
46:59
have a diploma , you get an exam at the
47:01
exam , but you're not good at anything , so
47:04
that diploma is worthless
47:06
. It's good that you say this , otherwise everyone
47:08
gets angry . You just have to be good
47:11
at something , but a diploma doesn't have
47:13
that much to do with it .
47:17
Yes , there are a lot of assignments in this book
47:19
. I like that Because the assignment lets
47:21
you think about yourself and I think that's
47:23
very valuable to know yourself . I
47:27
think this is always a great assignment . I think
47:29
you can do it every
47:31
year or a few years , and
47:35
I think that they are alive for a lot of reasons . We
47:38
have written for the young goals , but this assignment
47:41
and many other assignments don't take time . You
47:46
have it . It remains an interesting assignment . On
47:49
page 16 , page 195
47:52
, research who has the most influence on you ? Who
47:54
of the people in your direct life environment
47:57
has the positive influence on you ? Who
47:59
are high-performance in your environment ? Which
48:01
people can help you to get to your next level and
48:04
who gives you a negative
48:06
feeling ? Who costs energy and lives
48:08
a single contribution to your life ? Who
48:11
do you even like to grow as a person
48:13
and why would you go so far with those people
48:15
? Look good at the people
48:17
around you your relatives , friends
48:20
, your parents and colleagues and
48:22
then put the relationship between your and
48:24
their behaviour Between their mindset
48:26
and yours . If you discover that some
48:28
people have a negative influence on you , why would
48:31
you go around with those people ? What
48:34
would you do to make it easier , for you Know
48:36
that you can and can make your own choice
48:39
here . That's not always easy
48:41
, but it's best for you . I'll
48:43
write the assignment further . One
48:46
write the name of the ten people
48:48
you deal with the most , and that's why we're
48:50
talking about where you have daily
48:53
contact with . So on your work , friends
48:55
, colleagues , family
48:57
. Two place the people
48:59
in three columns Positive influence
49:01
, neutral and negative influence . Three
49:04
put the star behind the name of
49:06
the three people you deal with the most . Four
49:09
put the circle around the three
49:11
people who have the most positive influence on
49:13
you . Five put
49:16
the line under the people who have the most negative
49:18
influence on you . I
49:20
think you're doing the assignment at PENYA
49:22
.
49:22
I just wanted to say something good about you .
49:24
I remember that you had to do this at PENYA
49:26
.
49:26
This was one of the first assignments I had to make
49:29
when I was 29 . PENYA
49:31
is your business coach right , yes , and
49:34
this was something new for me . You
49:37
don't think about it here , but
49:39
with all the knowledge
49:41
I have now , I know how important this is
49:43
. Penya always calls me . Show
49:45
me your friends and I'll tell you your future
49:47
. And that's true . If
49:49
you know who someone is dealing
49:52
with and how much influence they have on you
49:54
, you can actually predict
49:57
how the future of someone like that will be . With
49:59
one certainty , maybe a small margin
50:01
of error , you
50:03
can just predict it . So
50:06
there are still statements like if you
50:08
hang around with monkeys , your
50:10
life becomes a circus , and that's also the
50:12
reality with a lot of people . So
50:15
this is such an amazing assignment . You
50:17
have 30 assignments in total . This
50:20
gives so much insight .
50:22
Yes , I
50:26
think that you're going to go back to the part of
50:28
your conviction we just had , and
50:30
this is an assignment that you're going to look
50:32
at very consciously and
50:36
take the time for that to your
50:38
friends , your parents , your
50:40
colleagues . You're going to look at what
50:43
statements they often make about what they
50:45
can't do , how entrepreneurial
50:47
they are , and
50:49
if you're going to predict
50:52
that and you're aware of that , you
50:54
can also look at yourself how much influence I'm going
50:56
to have on me .
50:58
Yes , and how
51:00
was that for you when you said you were going to Penya
51:02
and you got this assignment , so you analyzed
51:05
who you were going to come with and what the influence was
51:07
. How was that ? Because
51:10
often , when this is done first , you notice that you have made a
51:12
conscious choice . How was that
51:14
for you ?
51:17
This was too long ago for me to give you
51:19
a good answer to that , but
51:23
I was 29 . In that period I
51:25
had a few very
51:27
ambitious , creative
51:30
friends around me . Anyway
51:34
, I'm not going to like people who don't like
51:36
me . If I don't like someone , I'll quickly get rid of them . I
51:41
was already 11 years old at home
51:43
, so
51:45
I didn't have much to do with the
51:48
influence of my parents . But
51:50
I'm going to make that list then , and
51:53
then there will be some names
51:55
on a list where you think , hmm
51:58
, why am I actually going with that person
52:00
? Well
52:02
, I might be a bit more radical in that that I
52:04
can quickly get rid of them , and
52:06
I know a lot of people have trouble with that . But
52:09
it's important to be aware of that and that's where it's
52:11
going to go , because if you're
52:13
aware of that , you can make a conscious choice
52:15
, and
52:18
you often see that as feedback on the book . We
52:20
get back that people say , whoa , I
52:23
wasn't aware of that . Yes
52:27
, my friends find
52:29
it annoying . Oh , there are these kinds of examples
52:31
in books . My friends find it annoying that
52:33
I'm so busy with my business . I'm
52:36
busy with the startup . The story
52:38
of the boy with the girl . The girl finds it a bit
52:40
annoying that he always has friends with her
52:42
company . She doesn't socialize
52:45
much , she doesn't really get any attention from him and she has
52:47
the same . I understand what
52:49
she means , but the boy is so
52:51
dedicated to building his business
52:53
he likes that and
52:57
that's a lot of feedback and I can imagine
52:59
that it can be difficult . If
53:01
you're in the
53:03
friend club and that happens of course with friends
53:05
and friends You're going in a certain direction
53:08
. We often see that with a
53:10
group of girls who get kids at some point
53:12
they're busy with that , and then there are
53:14
one or two who are not busy with that yet Because they're busy
53:17
with their business or with their job . And
53:20
then you notice that those friends groups grow
53:22
a bit from
53:24
each other . But you keep going with each other
53:26
Because we've known each other for
53:28
so long . But that's not a
53:31
good argument to say that we're still
53:33
good friends . We're just going around with
53:36
each other for a long time or
53:38
you still have to stay with each other for a long time . That's
53:40
a second one .
53:41
Yes , and then , in conclusion
53:44
, because we've just talked about the superstitions
53:46
and you say that the people who
53:48
deal with it most have influence
53:50
on your programming Because those superstitions
53:52
come to your hard drive , does
53:55
he often ask okay , I'm a little more aware
53:57
of this now . How do I get into contact
53:59
with the right people ? The right people are
54:01
the people who fit in with what you
54:03
want to do , so they have a positive influence
54:06
for you personally . Well
54:09
, you have to look for that . And how
54:11
do you do that ? How
54:14
do you find a coach ? Do
54:16
you ask a lot ?
54:18
Yes , and the question of the week
54:21
I ask you is yes where do you need
54:24
coaching ? What do you think
54:26
is a good coach ? Where do you want to learn something
54:29
?
54:29
Yes , so that's actually the question that
54:31
comes up . That often appears
54:33
, so it's not entirely answered yet , because
54:36
if you know what you want , then you can also find someone
54:38
who is good at it , who can learn something my advice
54:40
would be if you are looking for a coach
54:42
, don't go to Google and look for a
54:45
coach .
54:46
People who are a coach , a business coach . That's
54:49
more psychological than that
54:51
. People really know where to talk
54:53
about helping you out . There , however
54:55
, there are a number of good business coaches
54:58
they are , but what
55:00
I mean by a coach is what Cindy earlier said
55:02
it's a teacher . It's someone
55:04
who is very familiar with it , not
55:07
someone who calls himself a coach online . No , if
55:09
I want to learn Timmerer , I go to a very good Timmerman
55:12
who can teach me that . If I want to
55:14
learn sailing , I go to Hengdevelde , which was
55:16
one of the best sailors in
55:18
the Netherlands who could teach me that . Just
55:21
like with those voices , just like with Penya
55:23
business , just like with writing that I went to the
55:25
writer's school . I look for
55:27
people in a certain field of study and then
55:29
you come to a writer's school , other
55:32
people with the same thoughts
55:34
who want the same thing as you do , and
55:36
of the 10 you come across , you find three nice things
55:38
. If you come to Maximum
55:40
Potential , you come across a lot of
55:43
people who just stand in the life . If
55:46
you , they all have a life
55:48
question , a vision . They want to go somewhere
55:50
. You come across people who you like . One
55:53
of my teachers , rob , who is also mentioned in the
55:55
book , for example , he
55:59
taught me that story of Mike . You
56:03
can sleep better in the bathroom
56:06
than having the suite
56:08
in one of the Achenebes'
56:10
one-star hotel , because in that
56:12
five-star hotel you
56:14
come across people you want to meet . Just like
56:16
you're going to fly business or
56:18
first class , which I used to do , you
56:22
always come across people you know
56:25
during the flight , always . And
56:27
so what is the moral
56:30
of the story ? Those
56:32
people understand them in certain places that you
56:34
can look for . Then the question
56:36
is why they would have someone interested in talking to you
56:38
. So
56:40
you have to come up with a good story or a good
56:43
question or the added value . Why would
56:45
someone find that interesting ? But look for
56:47
places where those people come and that
56:49
are not network thieves . That's where you're
56:51
not going to find the people you have .
56:53
In my opinion , I
56:55
want to give you a quote from the podcast
56:58
you recently recorded with Tuko
57:00
Lopsang . She's on YouTube
57:02
Dutch under the title , which is very
57:04
nice Because he's a bit more
57:07
difficult to follow himself with his English
57:09
, but Dutch is about titles
57:11
. Please recommend it . Look at YouTube . I
57:14
think these are very nice questions
57:17
to ask yourself regularly . Where
57:20
are you now ? How did you get here ? Where
57:22
do you want to go ? I'll tell
57:24
you . I
57:29
think this is the core of the Mastermind
57:31
Academy . This
57:35
is where you help people to go to the
57:37
academy With everything they do in
57:39
the Mastermind Academy . But this is the question
57:41
we often come back to , and
57:43
here you have to think about it .
57:45
These are the most important questions for yourself
57:47
to answer . If you take the book together , this
57:49
is an important summary . If
57:52
you take it even further back to the core , it
57:55
also says that it is the statement of Peña when
57:58
I first came across it . He said Tell
58:00
me what you want and I will tell you how to
58:02
get it . And that is for
58:04
sure as a little
58:07
basis for the book . Just ask a question
58:10
. I know that this
58:12
book will answer almost every question . You have
58:14
Not every question , but almost
58:17
every question . I am convinced of that . That
58:20
is why it is an important book to read . But
58:22
if you only know a little bit about
58:24
what direction you want to go with your life , what
58:27
you want to do , then
58:29
you have to move in that direction and
58:31
then you will discover what
58:33
is needed , who you need for that , which
58:36
coach , which people . It
58:38
is a process , it is a path that you have
58:40
to walk . So you have to get
58:43
into motion . That is important and
58:45
it is important that you walk in a certain direction . That
58:47
does not have to be very specific towards
58:49
the goal . But
58:52
if you are really going to walk in a totally wrong
58:54
direction , then I think that you will not be able
58:56
to get to where you want to go . So that thinking
58:58
about where you want to go with your life
59:00
, that is important , and
59:03
ask good questions . But we also treat that as a broad
59:05
, just like these
59:07
four very good questions from Toolkoe , my
59:10
Tibetan monk teacher . I think
59:12
these are questions you can think about for a very
59:14
long time , a
59:16
day , a week , a month and
59:19
where you may .
59:20
Also , at some point you get a new insight about it and you find new
59:23
answers , but they are not per se
59:25
. It is not like you have a closing answer in one time
59:27
, that question or the kind of calculation
59:29
with a one solution
59:31
and oh , that's it . That is , of course , a nice question
59:34
actually a lot of questions in the book . It
59:36
gives you a new insight on the way to
59:38
those answers . Yes
59:40
, you can give it more guidance , but it is not like
59:43
you have answered all of
59:45
them in one time . Of course it does not work like
59:47
that and you see that with these four
59:49
questions , try to answer them in one
59:51
time . The chance is very high that you will not be able to do
59:53
that , and that is why I think it is Christian Amorti
59:55
. That is a question like a tree and
59:58
that plant as a seed , and
1:00:00
that grows and that grows , and at some
1:00:02
point you can sit in the shadow . So it is something that
1:00:04
grows , what you take with you and
1:00:07
what you will continue to bring , what you give new insights
1:00:09
. I think it is the intention
1:00:11
to find an answer in one of those things .
1:00:16
I am still curious for you . If
1:00:19
you look back now , there is something
1:00:22
you have done , and then I will
1:00:24
talk a little bit about the period from 18
1:00:26
to 25 . Where
1:00:28
you think it is very valuable
1:00:31
for the life you are now leading .
1:00:33
Good question . I
1:00:36
think there is a lot of it and I think it is difficult
1:00:38
to put it into one specific thing .
1:00:41
I can answer more . I
1:00:44
can think about it . I
1:00:49
think I have awakened my love for
1:00:51
reading books and I think I am
1:00:54
going to read again
1:00:56
through you and
1:00:59
I can say that I can
1:01:02
not even describe what an enormous
1:01:04
impact it had on my life If I had given
1:01:06
all the books I had written
1:01:08
to you . All of them had not been read
1:01:11
. If
1:01:14
I had not met you and you had me , then
1:01:17
I would not have read
1:01:19
the power of the present , I would not have read the
1:01:22
thinking girl wits . All
1:01:27
of those beautiful
1:01:29
, valuable knowledge I am going to read
1:01:31
again . My advice would
1:01:33
really be for people . I hope they will
1:01:35
discover it . Reading
1:01:38
has a lot of added value to me and
1:01:40
I think it is a great success
1:01:43
of the life I am now living .
1:01:45
Yes , it is interesting because now you say
1:01:47
this , I always thought when
1:01:49
you asked me about it , I got quite a lot of
1:01:51
books from people that
1:01:53
brought me to a new insight . But
1:01:57
now you tell me this I got the Alchemist
1:01:59
of someone from Paolo Coelho on my 16th birthday
1:02:01
. I thought it was a crazy
1:02:03
book because it was part of a fiction
1:02:05
world that you know , but
1:02:08
that also gave me the opportunity to give a message
1:02:10
in a book . Coelho
1:02:12
also worked on the philosophy of it . That was
1:02:15
a reason for me to continue to write in . So
1:02:19
that was the first book . I thought , wow , there
1:02:22
is someone behind a book that writes
1:02:24
something about it that gives you ideas
1:02:27
. I thought that was amazing . There
1:02:31
have been a number of books that I got
1:02:33
in those 8-9
1:02:36
years so up to those 25 , as you just
1:02:38
said , those
1:02:42
books gave me a new insight . So I started with
1:02:44
the Alchemist At
1:02:46
some point . I had no idea how it came
1:02:49
out of it , but through the study I
1:02:51
was organized at the university , there
1:02:54
were a number of businesses that came to pick themselves up and
1:02:57
I met someone who was there only once
1:02:59
. I never went to these events
1:03:01
, so it was a coincidence . We
1:03:05
were just talking about it . He
1:03:08
said you have to read Think and Grow Riches by
1:03:10
Napoleon Hill . I thought
1:03:12
I'm going to read that book . That
1:03:14
also meant a lot to me . A
1:03:17
year later a friend gave me a Master
1:03:19
of Mindset and now I'm
1:03:21
here again . So we have been books that
1:03:23
gave me a new insight
1:03:25
. I recognize that a lot .
1:03:31
I have one last thing to think about . That
1:03:33
helped me a lot . That
1:03:36
helped me a lot .
1:03:41
I have always liked to listen
1:03:43
to older people who
1:03:45
had a
1:03:48
lot to tell . So
1:03:51
what I also wrote in the book a number
1:03:53
of as I call them my teachers I
1:03:57
listened to . That
1:04:00
is Meneer Bordenwijk , meneer Karansa
1:04:02
and Ome Bül Bül Verwij
1:04:04
, the
1:04:06
founder of the old Fironica . That were
1:04:09
people in my surroundings . I
1:04:12
was a young man back then . I'm talking about the period
1:04:14
when I was 18 , 18 , until
1:04:17
my a little bit 29th and
1:04:19
I thought it was fantastic to listen to the stories of
1:04:21
those people who
1:04:24
were so far away in their lives . A
1:04:27
little like before that . The older people
1:04:29
from the tribe , from the village , told
1:04:32
stories to the young people where you could learn
1:04:34
something , and that's where I think
1:04:36
I learned the most in my life
1:04:38
To listen to
1:04:40
the wisdom , the wisdom of those people
1:04:42
. That brought me
1:04:45
a lot . Just
1:04:47
listen .
1:04:48
I think what is now completely beautiful
1:04:51
at this time and what was not
1:04:53
yet in your time . But I can imagine that
1:04:55
someone who just made that assignment that
1:04:57
you go and look at the people at your surroundings and maybe
1:05:00
also what your conclusion is that you don't
1:05:02
get a lot of inspiration from your friends , not
1:05:04
at work and not at my parents either , and everyone
1:05:07
is pretty negative , and
1:05:09
I can imagine . But how do I get out of here
1:05:11
? You can at least
1:05:13
start listening to podcasts now . There
1:05:16
are so many , especially internationally
1:05:18
, but I think the Netherlands is full of the Lotte Podcast
1:05:21
, the End-Base Podcast with
1:05:23
very interesting guests
1:05:26
. We can at least start
1:05:28
with that and then combine that with reading
1:05:30
books so that you
1:05:32
at least get your thoughts out of there
1:05:34
. Then the part where you
1:05:36
grew up , maybe with parents who didn't
1:05:38
have that , and you were lucky
1:05:40
because you worked at the radio , that
1:05:43
you got to touch with those people . But if you're
1:05:45
not there yet and
1:05:48
you're not at that job yet , then you start
1:05:50
with this and learn a
1:05:52
lot from that , and I think what you said then you eventually
1:05:55
come because
1:05:57
you might find something in a certain field of
1:05:59
field and then you go to a teacher
1:06:01
, and then you get in contact with the teacher , and
1:06:03
then you get in contact with the teacher and
1:06:06
before you know it , you two or three more and suddenly you
1:06:08
see a whole different network .
1:06:09
Studying doesn't have to cost
1:06:12
money , in my opinion , because
1:06:14
you can watch a lot of podcasts , watch YouTube
1:06:16
videos , you can google a lot of things . You
1:06:18
can ask a lot of things via chat . If you
1:06:20
stop there for a long time , you
1:06:23
can become an expert in a certain field of field
1:06:25
. You can learn a lot from
1:06:27
that , especially through all those
1:06:29
podcasts , listening to people who have
1:06:32
a lot to say so that they can speak out of experience
1:06:34
. The only thing that you can spend is
1:06:36
time . So the choice
1:06:38
to invest that time in yourself and
1:06:41
that's what I would also like to give advice to go
1:06:44
to workshops . I've been doing that
1:06:46
since I was 25 , workshops
1:06:50
especially about entrepreneurship and
1:06:52
success and leadership and money earning . Later
1:06:55
on about meditation and mind and psychology
1:06:57
. But go outside your education
1:06:59
, outside your school , invest yourself
1:07:01
in these kinds of things . The short
1:07:04
metaphor I would like to try to explain
1:07:06
these metaphors , the
1:07:09
title of the book is Design your Own Life so
1:07:11
that you can give your own life , your
1:07:14
future , your own life . We
1:07:17
don't say life is entirely
1:07:20
feasible . Everything is possible . That's
1:07:22
not true . This book is not for everyone
1:07:24
, because whoever doesn't believe
1:07:26
in it will never get
1:07:28
it for each other , but it is for a lot
1:07:31
of people and it is often much more possible
1:07:33
than you think . That's
1:07:36
one If
1:07:38
you Well , you think it's not true that
1:07:43
life is over and you can't design that yourself . I
1:07:46
would like to keep the following to you
1:07:48
. Imagine that life is
1:07:50
compared to a street where you walk
1:07:53
with all restaurants , there are all
1:07:55
restaurants , and you
1:07:57
are suddenly at the Chinese and you think what do I have
1:07:59
to do here at the Chinese ? I don't like Chinese , I
1:08:01
don't want Chinese . I'd rather go to
1:08:04
Italy or to Greece or to
1:08:06
whatever , to Japan . But
1:08:08
I see you here at the Chinese . I'm in the wrong restaurant
1:08:10
or I'm in the wrong environment
1:08:13
in my life . I don't like
1:08:16
it here , but I want you to
1:08:18
walk out and say go
1:08:20
to the sushi restaurant or go
1:08:22
to Italy or go to the
1:08:24
bread stand . Don't worry , you
1:08:27
have the same freedom and
1:08:29
maybe it's not directly to your luck , but
1:08:32
step up , stand up , walk
1:08:34
out where you are and go
1:08:36
to the place you want to go to the
1:08:38
restaurant you want to go to . Then
1:08:41
the next , if you come
1:08:43
to a restaurant , you can read
1:08:45
a menu card or
1:08:47
a QR code that
1:08:49
you can read what they offer there . Many people in the
1:08:51
world say you can't choose yourself
1:08:53
in the restaurant you're going to eat . You
1:08:56
just get a little bit of a shock . It's
1:08:58
nonsense , fucking bullshit . In every restaurant
1:09:00
you just get a card and you can choose
1:09:02
. And that's life . Life is like a restaurant . You
1:09:05
can choose what menu card you want to
1:09:08
go to . From what menu card you want to go
1:09:10
to , you can make a choice
1:09:12
. You can choose what menu card you want to go to
1:09:15
. People have the same menu card
1:09:17
, so the menu card from me might
1:09:21
be different from yours or yours , shors , but within
1:09:23
that menu card we have
1:09:25
a lot of choices that we can make ourselves
1:09:27
. So don't live in the misconception that everything is
1:09:30
shot in advance and if it's on the
1:09:32
table you
1:09:34
think well , I don't like it , so
1:09:36
that's how you deal with it . That's the metaphor . Shors
1:09:40
knows the story , maybe not even the
1:09:43
title Design your Own Life .
1:09:46
Yeah , yes
1:09:51
, tell me .
1:09:56
I wanted to tell you what I find a bit boring . We
1:10:02
live in Barcelona , and
1:10:05
then we had a good friend , richard
1:10:07
, and Richard
1:10:09
was a huge driven entrepreneur
1:10:11
, just like me , someone
1:10:14
who was really
1:10:16
enthusiastic , energetic , always had ideas . At
1:10:25
some point he had bought a very small
1:10:28
old vinyl card
1:10:30
in Mallorca , in
1:10:33
a very small village , where he said what do you need on that ? Mallorca
1:10:35
, it's fun in Barcelona . Here
1:10:39
it happens . And
1:10:42
that vinyl card was completely built
1:10:44
and attached and then he went there every weekend
1:10:46
and then he went to make his
1:10:48
own olive oil and
1:10:51
then he came on board
1:10:53
the day with a bottle of olive oil . You
1:10:57
know , he really lived . And
1:11:00
then we had it about I'm
1:11:03
talking about almost ten years ago , about
1:11:08
what we were doing and that I wanted to work
1:11:10
again . I had lived in
1:11:12
Barcelona for a few years and didn't work . We lived on
1:11:14
my boat . I said , yes , we actually want people
1:11:16
to help so that they can also
1:11:18
live a nice life , and
1:11:20
then we're going to make programs about it . And
1:11:23
then he said , oh , you mean a kind of
1:11:25
Design your Own Life . So
1:11:28
the title Design your Own Life is
1:11:30
thought through , richard . And
1:11:33
then we also named one of our first
1:11:35
online programs like that and
1:11:38
that program in the past years
1:11:40
. I don't know I've really
1:11:42
done a lot of people with it , but
1:11:45
Richard lived here in this
1:11:47
village where we now also live , and
1:11:52
it's really hard to tell . And
1:11:56
Richard had a dream because he wanted to be a pilot
1:11:58
very much , so he had a flight course
1:12:00
here in the village and
1:12:03
then he was going to fly
1:12:05
with such a small plane , you know such
1:12:07
an aero light thing , and
1:12:10
he was really happy . And then
1:12:12
he sent me a WhatsApp message and then
1:12:14
he said you've got a pilot friend . And
1:12:16
that's the last message I got from
1:12:19
him , because he
1:12:21
had his plane taken private and
1:12:24
three weeks later he's here
1:12:26
against those mountains
1:12:28
where we look out . He
1:12:31
was in danger With
1:12:35
his plane crashed and
1:12:41
, yes , I think that almost every day . And
1:12:46
he said then Design your Own Life . And
1:12:50
that's actually what the book is called .
1:12:55
Yes , I
1:12:58
remember that very well that we were on
1:13:01
board and
1:13:06
I heard him say Design your Own Life . And Cori's was
1:13:08
always so enthusiastic , Really
1:13:11
enjoying a huge life . And
1:13:13
the book . The
1:13:15
title fits very well Because
1:13:20
it is , yes
1:13:22
, what we think is very well understood . You
1:13:26
know , it makes life beautiful , Create beautiful things
1:13:28
, and Design your Own Life
1:13:30
makes you contribute beautifully . Yes
1:13:34
, it's nice that the title lives on .
1:13:38
Yes , and there's something we want
1:13:40
to report before we finish this podcast .
1:13:44
Yes , I see it a lot
1:13:46
on your social media , but
1:13:49
for what age is this book
1:13:51
now suitable ? Where
1:13:56
do you find it suitable ? For what age ?
1:13:58
Well , good question . It is meant
1:14:00
first of all for 18
1:14:02
to 30 . That group , I
1:14:05
think if you're a little younger or a
1:14:07
little older , especially
1:14:09
interesting , especially at 40 , I
1:14:11
still think you'll keep a lot of it , or
1:14:14
you would read it if you were 15
1:14:16
or 16 . Maybe
1:14:19
if you already have a goal from an intense motivation and
1:14:21
you're looking for it , if you're really
1:14:23
looking for it yourself . I think back to when I was
1:14:26
14 or 15
1:14:28
or 16 . I was still
1:14:30
busy with everything . I was pretty busy
1:14:33
too . I was a little bit of a money-earning on the Internet
1:14:35
. I was still doing everything Classes
1:14:38
, books but I wasn't so specific in
1:14:40
looking for this kind of theme . I
1:14:42
think that such a book is also a bit on your path . So
1:14:45
I don't know if you have to say well , this is
1:14:47
really the book for someone
1:14:49
who was also a little bit of a long-term now
1:14:52
12 , 13 , 14 . I
1:14:54
was really busy there . No
1:14:56
, I think .
1:14:58
At your own right . So I also
1:15:00
got a message from Mehrder in the meantime . Someone
1:15:03
said to me I bought my daughter from 8 . And
1:15:05
I'm going to read it to her , but
1:15:09
I really don't think that the
1:15:11
book is for someone from 8 or 10 or 12
1:15:13
. It just doesn't . You can translate it your own
1:15:15
way . I
1:15:18
would say at least 15 years
1:15:20
old , maybe an individual 14
1:15:22
. But otherwise it's just not the
1:15:24
book for you . Then you're too young , then you have to
1:15:26
do other things in life . I think .
1:15:28
And you see that , yes , parents
1:15:30
think far . But I really want my
1:15:32
child to read this . It's
1:15:35
also an interesting book for when you're older yourself
1:15:37
, and because you then see that
1:15:39
this is how the generation thinks and
1:15:41
you really get a sense of Gen Z and
1:15:44
we also have an investigation , a proposal
1:15:46
at the end , of what the things are that we see ourselves as
1:15:48
an older , when you think . Well , I indeed
1:15:51
have a child from 13 , 14
1:15:53
. And this book would be really perfect
1:15:55
. Maybe it's interesting to read
1:15:57
it for yourself . And I
1:15:59
think that , yes , you have a role as
1:16:01
an example for your parents . So your child is going
1:16:03
to do all those things . So you just
1:16:05
get a lot of things from your parents purely through what
1:16:07
they show , and maybe they also have
1:16:09
a bit of the answer there . And I don't
1:16:11
mean it's something you have to be afraid of someone
1:16:13
from . No , I mean when I was 8
1:16:15
, when I was playing hud on the building and outside .
1:16:18
Let me know , that's how
1:16:20
I do it , I know when I was 18
1:16:22
, I could live in Amsterdam , and
1:16:24
I can't really take it
1:16:26
into account now , because if I had received
1:16:28
this gift at that time , I would have not had it . But
1:16:32
I did notice I had a housemate who had been to Thunder
1:16:34
Robins and we were two years apart , so
1:16:36
I think I was 20 then and
1:16:39
she was 23 . It was Thunder
1:16:41
Robins . She was completely crazy . And
1:16:44
then she came home and I really
1:16:46
couldn't do anything with it . I
1:16:48
also thought it was terrible . I was not interested
1:16:51
in it . So I'm talking now that I was 20
1:16:53
. Four years later I
1:16:56
met you . You also
1:16:58
played Thunder Robins , ellen Woods , and
1:17:01
of course your whole boat is full with all
1:17:04
of these kinds of books . And
1:17:07
then it did touch me . But why ? Because
1:17:10
when I was studying , the question
1:17:12
was much more for me who
1:17:15
am I and where do I want to go ? While
1:17:17
when I was 20 , I came
1:17:19
to live in Amsterdam , I was mainly
1:17:21
focused on where the next party is . I
1:17:24
was just on my bike from Amsterdam
1:17:26
to go . I
1:17:29
went to lunch with my friend in the afternoon
1:17:31
and then I came home at four o'clock
1:17:33
in the evening .
1:17:35
Long lunch .
1:17:36
It was very alive in the present
1:17:38
, but it didn't bother me either . And
1:17:41
I also thought if someone had given me a book I would
1:17:43
have thought , yes
1:17:46
, fine , maybe I really threw it in the book and
1:17:48
I really wanted to give that to him . I
1:17:51
thought , maybe you have a son of a nine and you
1:17:54
could use that super well and
1:17:56
you give that to him and he doesn't look at it Later
1:18:01
. And then I know , just like
1:18:03
with me that friend who
1:18:05
also gave me everything with Thunder Robins without
1:18:07
even trying to do it , but of course she said
1:18:09
it's super interesting and I didn't find
1:18:11
it exciting at all . And four years later
1:18:14
I followed all the seminars for Thunder
1:18:16
Robins . I read all the books of them . I
1:18:18
thought it was amazing . So
1:18:20
sometimes it's not the moment , and
1:18:23
that's why it's quite difficult to say for which life
1:18:25
it is . And the one is maybe if
1:18:27
he's sixteen he already finds it amazing
1:18:29
, and the other maybe only if
1:18:31
he's thirty . So that would
1:18:34
be my , of course , old , or
1:18:36
maybe I really want to have a lot of
1:18:38
old . Then
1:18:41
that moment will come .
1:18:44
Or not . I would like to add yes
1:18:46
, there comes a listening book
1:18:48
version . We don't call it data
1:18:50
. We hope this year . And
1:18:53
for all the parents who say , yes
1:18:55
, I have to tell
1:18:58
the diplomatic my children
1:19:00
don't read that much . Then they just stay
1:19:02
dumb . I just think you're just going to read
1:19:04
it . We wrote
1:19:06
it to read . I think that's an important book
1:19:08
for a lot of people . We
1:19:11
are not from the listening generation . The listening book
1:19:13
you can listen to it later if you've read
1:19:15
it . It's coming soon . But
1:19:17
I also had some people with a visual limitation
1:19:20
who said come to a listening book . Yes
1:19:22
, I'm really going to do my best , but it's just a matter of talking
1:19:24
about it and until the summer the summer
1:19:26
break I'm busy with a lot of other things , so
1:19:29
it's not just coming . There will definitely be
1:19:31
a listening book version of it , and not only that , but
1:19:33
much more , but later on more Can
1:19:37
I ? Both of you , thank you very much for
1:19:40
this nice conversation . I think we
1:19:42
made a very nice book with
1:19:44
the three of us . I'm
1:19:46
super proud of you , super
1:19:50
cool . The book sold
1:19:52
well in the Netherlands on one in the list . I
1:19:54
think it's a what
1:19:57
do you call it ? A medal .
1:19:59
Mission accomplished . You
1:20:02
came with the idea of first-hand for the younger
1:20:04
, but when you put your mind to it , it's something very
1:20:06
different . I think
1:20:09
we really put something very cool down and at
1:20:12
some point , the idea of asking those 15
1:20:14
questions . I thought this would be a mega
1:20:16
challenge , has it been ? Has it been long
1:20:18
?
1:20:20
But it is a book like no other and
1:20:24
of course that is a very utopian delay
1:20:26
. But I would find
1:20:28
it very nice if everyone who
1:20:31
is in the middle school , in the last
1:20:33
grade middle school and then
1:20:35
goes a little further or goes to
1:20:37
study , that everyone will read this book
1:20:39
once . Thank
1:20:41
you , Read
1:20:44
Design your Own Life , and
1:20:47
then it's up to you . I also write that
1:20:49
in the back . Now it's up to you I've been there Design
1:20:53
your Own Life , lives your life . Thanks for
1:20:55
listening to this podcast . See you
1:20:57
next time .
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