God’s Word says a husband and wife become one flesh…but it doesn’t say anything about prenups.
It’s true; you won’t find “prenuptial agreement” in your concordance. So, does that mean a Christian should never have one?
A prenuptial agreement (prenup) is a legal contract that couples agree to before marriage, outlining how their assets—money, property, and other possessions—will be divided if they divorce. While this can seem like a practical way to handle complex financial conversations, many wonder if it aligns with God’s design for marriage.
In Genesis 2:24, God sets the foundation for marriage: "A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Paul reinforces this principle in 1 Corinthians 7:4, reminding us that in marriage, even our bodies are not our own but belong to our spouse. This unity is central to God’s plan for a thriving marriage—there should be no "mine" or "yours," only "ours."
Marriage is also a covenant relationship, reflecting the bond between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:31-32). This covenant is built on love, sacrifice, grace, and mutual respect. In a Christ-centered marriage, everything is shared, and the relationship becomes a testimony of God’s love to the world.
While a prenup may seem practical, it can introduce harmful dynamics into a Christian marriage. Dr. Art Rainer, a frequent contributor to Faith and Finance, outlines three potential messages a prenup might send:
Despite these potential issues, there are scenarios where a prenup might foster unity rather than harm it. For example, if one or both spouses have children from previous marriages, a prenup can help clarify how inheritances will be handled. This could show that the marriage is being pursued for the right reasons and that the best interests of all family members are being considered.
However, any decision about a prenup should involve prayer and godly counsel. Seeking wisdom from advisors ensures that the couple asks the hard questions and examines their motivations before moving forward.
Ultimately, marriage is a covenant reflecting Christ’s relationship with the Church, built on trust, sacrifice, and unity. While there may be valid reasons to consider a prenup, it should never replace the trust and commitment foundational to Christian marriage.
Both spouses should prayerfully consider their motivations, ensuring their relationship aligns with God’s design for oneness in all areas, including finances. Open conversations about money and trust are essential, and any agreement made between each spouse should serve the marriage, not undermine it.
We hope this reflection has provided you with valuable insights as you ponder whether a prenup is right for your situation. Seek God’s guidance, and let His vision of unity and covenant shape your marriage decisions.
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